Maybe he is stressed out- no pressure, OK? But maybe get creative too- trip to the vic secret? Now is the time while he is there! Good luck today- hope they find a vein! Shay
I'm hoping this sex drive lull is organic in nature and not something else. He has had this problem in the past, however, he used to try harder to overcome it.
I've got lots of slinky things to dress in and I wear them but alas.... .
Although I lean toward believing my H when he said that he has "burned that bridge", I have this tiny little voice in the back of my head whispering "OW is still smack-dab under his nose every work day. Maybe it's NOT completely over inside his head". The boss has yet to move her to another department as per my H's request.
Worse yet is the thought that maybe he is trying to break that one last powerful bond with me.
You're right though, "no pressure" is the way to go. I really dislike being in this position. It wouldn't be so awful if I was rewarded for my efforts.
The radiologist had to use the same bruised vein, just a little higher up. I survived.
Jeanine, I am sorry to read that your health problems may extend further that anxiety weightloss. I hope everything comes back okay,I have been read just about your entire thread mostly due to it is so similiar to my situation. Just want you to know I admire your strength through everything you have been through and find it helps me to deal with my situation, knowing all of these wonderful people are in the same boat. Take care of yourself first (That's funny I should probly follow my own advice) Your in my prayers, Michelle
Sorry to see another person in pain, but you are most welcomed here. There are many wonderful people on this bb who devote a lot of time and energy n helping others.
Thank you for the kind words and I'm glad that you've found some comfort in reading about my situation. It does help to find other's whose life seems to be running a close parallel in some respects.
Don't feel bad, I often find it difficult to take my own advice too!
Just transplanting my goals and action plan over from my old thread to here, where I can get to them quicker.
New Goals, July 18, 2003
What I want:
1. To get my health back. 2. To gain weight. 3. To feel safe and secure. 4. To have my H feel comfortable, at ease, and happier here with me. 5. To save my M.
What can I do to accomplish these things.
1. Be more positive, think more positively, act more positively. a. Smile more. b. Lovingly detach. c. Give H space. d. Give this situation time. e. Be patient. f. Do not pursue. g. Show more sexual interest even if it means initiating it. h. Validate H’s feelings and needs. i. Make the most of our time together. j. Keep educating myself. k. Be careful about doing things that will only end up causing me more pain.
2. Visualize 3. Reinforce those things that H does that are positives. 4. Minimize those things that H does that aren’t positives. 5. Show more confidence in myself and in us. 6. Practice staying in the here and now. 7. Practice keeping negative thoughts at bay. (Clearing cobwebs) 8. Reach out to others for help and to give help. 9. Allow H to come to me on his own, in his own way, in his own time. 10. Forgive myself when I fail to live up to this list and know that setbacks are part of the process.
The nurses frequently have a hard time drawing my blood. One time I had a nurse poke me 3 times or so, and I HATE needles...refuse to watch, afraid I might faint. Bleh!
Actually, they weren't drawing blood today, they were injecting iodine for a C.A.T. scan. The needle is big! I know what you mean about having to be poked multiple times though, it's happened to me too.
I never watch either. I'm a major wimp when it comes to things like that.
Now I just have to get through two more tests involving tubes. Oh fun, I'm a lucky gal!!
Everyone here on the bb has shown more care and concern for my well-being than my own H. He knew that I was nervous about todays test, but did he bother to call and check on me, ask me how I'm doing? Nope. Just his obligatory call around lunch time which I was not here for. He could have called me on my cell or called back later, but nope.
It's almost 6pm and not a word. Guess he has more important things to tend to or maybe more important people to be with.
Pretty inconsiderate J. But NOT unusual. They ARE wrapped up in their stuff, my H showed incredible insensitivity when I was ill last summer/fall.
Heck he dropped bomb #1 when I was three weeks post op and then dragged me out to a karaoke bar that same night!!!
I guess what I mean to say it that it SUCKS and you deserve BETTER...but it's not a prediction of how things will work out, or how he may come to feel about you in the near future.
Glad they found a vein, even if it was 'ol bruiser.
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I survived. 
