Rome is fantastic - just as Jen described it. Go visit Pompeii too - I still giggle at the American tourist who commented to his wife that Pompeii was like something out of the Flintstones - obviously H and I called that guy 'Barney' after that comment!!!!
It's a wonderful city. That and Athens are my favourites!!!!!Just remember to hold on to your handbag tightly.
Saffie me 46 H 46 M in 1986 D20,D18,S16,D13 H's A 01/05 to 07/06 H recommitted to M 07/06 renewed vows 09/06 Going from strength to strength
Ciao bellas!!!, back from Rome, what a whirlwind few days.
managed a couple of days by the pool, very welcome after the hot days spent sightseeing. managed the colussium, 2 bus tours, the fountain, steps, got to the vatican, but due to admin error on our behalf we issed our timed tour - less said the better as a v sore subject! Enjoyed/loved evry minute of time spent with D1. Also V proud of myself for managing the airports, train stations, underground, buses etc....I DID IT!!!
Back to reality, house went on the market last friday and sold on tuesday!!omg now have to start house hunting and mortgage sorting. Have app with sol on tuesday to go through finances - AGAIN - although im clearer this time about what i want. The good thing is the buyers want to complete by sept, but i have said oct half term is more realisic, im happy to get this sorted now asap. I cant stand the way he just turns up unannounced and no this isn't to be friendly, he's being a pain in the ass.
Found out from boys that ow and her boys plus another female friend turned up for a couple of days on their caping holiday. I had to say something to him this time as s1 had to share his bedroom with h's friend and s1 was crying to me as he hadnt being happy about it and he felt he couldnt say anything to his dad. I added the comment that as 'just good friends' he and ow seemed to spend a lot of time together.
Saffie - how was the holiday?
Jen - when is the isle of wight festival?
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P/A confirmed 5/03/08
03/08 H said affair over, I dont think it is, h still doesn't want marriage
T: 13 M: 8 D:20 & 17 from Previous M S: 8 & 4 BS: May 07 ILYBNILWY S: 13/10/07
Also V proud of myself for managing the airports, train stations, underground, buses etc....I DID IT!!!
you sound good and strong. I can hear you that H is being a pain, but try to go a little easier on him... it might help in the long run? Or maybe not ... heaven knows he doesn't deserve it, but hey life is never fair
The festy on the IOW is in September ... part of me wonders if any other DB'ers would be there.... I go every year, I first went there after H moved out, to help me get over it. Then 2006 H got happy and I went down, then in 2007 I still wasn't quite there .... hoping 2008 will be THE year.
Sorry, wafflin a little, glad Rome was lovely, I am soooooo jealous
Bomb (ILYBINILWY, don't want to be married)Sept05 Seperated Sept/Oct 05 Oct 06 - H recomitted July 11 - I am now a WAW.
Well all been well, i should be moving house on Friday 12th September.
Can't wait to go now, new start for me and the kids.
Still have finances to sort with H and S, but slowly but surely everything that should be done is getting done.
I have fantastic and very supportive friends, alot are taking the day off work to help me move.
On a personal level i wonder how i have got to this place? How can i feel so indifferent towards someone i loved so very much and with all my heart?
I think i hve put a protective barrier around me. I cant be H's best friend. I could have forgiven the affair, but the hurt that his lies and deceit has caused is unfathomnable (sp). He treats me with indifference (for want of a better word) almost like i never meant anything to him. I feel im strong and coping well.
x
P/A confirmed 5/03/08
03/08 H said affair over, I dont think it is, h still doesn't want marriage
T: 13 M: 8 D:20 & 17 from Previous M S: 8 & 4 BS: May 07 ILYBNILWY S: 13/10/07
Evie - I stepped off this DB board over the summer for a number of different reasons, but wanted to look in today. I would have contacted you "off-line", but since that's not allowed, couldn't let you know I was thinking of you this summer and hoping for the best for you - whatever that might be. I'm glad for you that you have found your strength and feel positive about a fresh start. The protective barrier is a good thing! I also think your travel adventures lit a spark - nothing like a change of scenery and sense of independence to help you feel happy and strong. You must have found a new house that you are pleased with - that brightens the prospects of a move. I always want to feel that I am moving to something better - not necessarily bigger or fancier, but more suited to me. If you feel positive about it, then I am sure that will be contagious and the boys will be happy with it, too.
me: 47 H: 48 he has 2 grown sons M 1995(my 1st, his 3rd) hit iceberg 6/07 S 9/26/07 before now
Thank you for stopping by - I have being worried about you, are you ok?
Move went well, i sold on the 12th Aug and moved on 12th Sept - is that a record?
I had an army of people to help me, we had a good plan. My male friend came along with his van (quiet hero of the day, couldn't have done it without him).
H stayed out of the way and dug up plants from the garden and was obviously getting more and more upset as the day went on. I put the emotion aside, i was with friends who have helped me get through the last 18months and they helped me laugh the day away.
From that night on though, H has bomberded me with Texts and emails. He said i treated him like Sh*t and as i hadn't treated anybody else like it it was obviously done without thought, he said he saw qualities in me that day that he didn't like and never in a thousand years thought he would see. After that he used the business and the boys as whipping tools. I didn't respond until the monday when i apologised for any upset caused, i said i had a job to do, that he of all people would know what it meant for me to move out of my family home. I said i was sorry that he couldn't accept my apologies. I told him I had loved him with all my heart and he had broken it and when he had calmed down we needed to talk as there were things that i needed to say that i havent been able to say for the last 12 months.
What i really resisited the temptation to say was - 'you f**king ar*se who the f**k do you think you are?. I was with my friends on friday, people who have helped me get through the last 18 months, you are not my friend and who in a million years would have thought you would have f**ked off and had an affair. I have seen far worse qualities in you in the 2 years than you have seen in me in 1 day. Any anger or hurt you feel, multiply by a zillion and thats a fraction of how i feel.
Anyway we have all settled in, the house is smaller, but its mine!! i can breathe again, no longer do i have to worry that he will walk in at any time. i can leave private stuff out..
BUT - He wont leave me alone - any excuse to email/phone/text..
I had to take my calming pills all last week - not good
WHY is he like this???? This is what he wanted...He wants a divorce - so why??
He is really stressed, he has cold sores - sure sign of been stressed. I had to deal with packing up the majority of the house, deal with the kids and my own emotions and the purchase of my new house??
P/A confirmed 5/03/08
03/08 H said affair over, I dont think it is, h still doesn't want marriage
T: 13 M: 8 D:20 & 17 from Previous M S: 8 & 4 BS: May 07 ILYBNILWY S: 13/10/07
It sounds to me like he still wanted you to want him - or at least to show your hurt so that he would know he had that effect on you. It's as if he turned it all around to interpret your calm "taking care of business" approach as a rejection of him. He seems to want you to react to him. Almost like it is validation for him. Definitely messed up thinking.
Has he stepped back, yet?
I had kind of a tough summer. I had decided to stay away from this board for a variety of reasons. If we were allowed to make personal contact, I would have checked in with you - it felt rude to just drop away, but . . .
I think I'm thru the worst of it. Went thru some milestones in September - wedding anniversary, my birthday (no acknowledgement from H or in-laws of my existence), and then the one year mark of our physical separation. I feel like something has shifted in my emotional state - I don't think I'm at acceptance, but at least at resignation. I'm working on a separation agreement to get finances settled, but haven't discussed with H, yet. I have basically no contact w/ him.
me: 47 H: 48 he has 2 grown sons M 1995(my 1st, his 3rd) hit iceberg 6/07 S 9/26/07 before now
long time no hear...hope you are well and having a good Christmas, maybe even a great one. You deserve it. Love to know how all is going with you...the holidays are weird times for many WAS's (and us for that matter...) so no matter what, keep your cool.
Merry Christmas to you and your little ones too, and your d's if I recall correctly! (( j ))
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
