The Wifey - Still working.

[The Wifey]

I had to send him an email this morning because I needed to know if he would go to the company picnic, forms are due today. He replied, sorry, I do not wish to attend. : (

I was prepared for that. I'm still going to go and try to have a good time.

It just ticks me off a little. F'ing A! This whole thing just sucks the big lemon.

[The Wifey]

Ginny emailed him again. Does she want to get back together or has she realized that its time to move on? I hate her. I hate her! I hhhhhhhhhaaaaaatttttttteeeeeee hhhhhhhheeeeeeeeeerrrrrrrrr!!!!!!

[Neilh23]

did you snoop again? *getting my 2x4*

[The Wifey]

I need a whole lot of 2x4's or I am going to drive to her house and tell her to back the F off! Like he needs his "friend" pushing him to get out.

[Neilh23]

Kjo...look back on your sitch. seriously. look where you were a couple of days ago. you were in a good place. how do you get back there?

now...

if you go over there and say that to her, what will the result be? Will that get you closer or further away from your goal?


i think you know the answer.

[The Wifey]

She would be on the phone to him within minutes of my leaving and he would be mad at me. I know I can't Neil. I want to, but I can't. If she would just realize how she isn't helping and back off. Better yet, if H would tell her to back off.

I know it doesn't get me closer to goal.

I don't know if I can do this sometimes. Thank God for this BB. I just want to scream.

[Neilh23]

Kjo-
you know you can't, which is good.

now.....

how can you get your H to tell her to back off? say something to him? i think not......

you know the better way.

and yes you can do this. You are two months in. YOu are doing great. Believe that.

trust in yourself.

stay strong.

[Kiki1011]

(((((Kelly Jo)))))

I know how hard it is to hold yourself back. Just last night I knew that H was talking to OW on the phone outside and I wanted to just scream and yell and call her (I have her #) and tell her to back off! But I resisted because I knew it would just cause trouble. Don't do it...I know if I can stop myself then you can stop yours because I am pretty much the weakest willed person in the world :o)

You have so many good signs that things are slowly moving in the right direction, try not to focus on this one negative thing. She is probably just trying to stir things up or cause more tension. Some people are just cruel and find it ammusing. Just know that you are a better person. You don't want to react and do anything that will throw you into negative light right now.

I hope you feel better soon and find away to release this tension.

Niki ;o)

[The Wifey]

What is the better way? He is getting tired of reassuring me, I know. I just am so freakin' scared and I really don't need her "help."

I know I have to be the one he wants to be with. I have to be the Happy, GAL person that he would want to be with. I just am having a hard time feeling it right now.

[Neilh23]

Don't look for him to 'reassure you'. Remember, actions speak louder than words. What has he done lately to show his feelings to you? Look back at your threads, you will find it.

Better way? C'mon........... think about it. What would MAKE HIM WANT TO STAY WITH YOU???

look on my thread if you are having trouble. Bworl has given me great advice on that subject