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LostPhil #1540616 07/31/08 06:02 PM
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Very nice...

There is a sandwich place in Pittsburgh that I went to while there on business that was amazing. It was caled Primanti's and it was the biggest sandwich I ever ate. They even put the fries on the sandwich....oh man I am getting hungry just thinking about that place.....


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XW- mentally 17
KIDS- 3- S19, D23, D28
Married- 17 years
Divorce final- 10/16/09

sofaraway #1540634 07/31/08 06:15 PM
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Hey Phil,

If you were to start a solution journal, how would you go about that?


....Understand, that I can't, not be what I am
I'm not the milk, and Cheerios in your spoon
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*KS*Chick* #1540649 07/31/08 06:28 PM
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1. Not have a solution journal.

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You would rather be right than HAPPY? How about thinking about that a minute. You can be right and very much alone. I'd rather be happy than right. Just me, I guess.

I do hope sitting there having your hoagie was a nice, relaxing time for you.

I agree the flip off done in front of the boys was in poor taste. I don't blame you for not liking that. Do you think you could have done anything differently in that situation? I know we are all brilliant in hindsight.


Me 45, H 46, S 23, M 26, Together 30, Bomb 6-2-08,
S 6-19-08; H left 12-29-08. H home 12-09, Still MLC in 2012!
Me- I have my big girl panties on. Bring it.

The Wifey #1540674 07/31/08 06:48 PM
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Kelly,

We have been down this road. You would rather be right than happy? I think my wife needs to think of the statement, maybe it will mean something to her. Perhaps she should be her rather than me.

I think it is a dumb statement. Lets just not even go down that road. k...

Having a hoagie. Alone. It got ruined. My mother called me and asked me for lunch money. She works in the area I do. Says she will pay me back, but never does. She never calls to take me out to lunch either. She does that every once in awhile. I enable everyone. I told her I just spent my last ten bucks on the hoagie. My brother lives with her, and some other lady. She should ask them for lunch money. She's also is working, why is she asking me for money.

The flip off. No I think I handled it correctly. I said I didn't appreciate it.

LostPhil #1540753 07/31/08 07:39 PM
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Ok, that was absolutely heart wrenching. I just called my kids at their grand parets. Tired, bored, and lathargic they are. Do as they do, they do not. Son was crying he wanted me to pick him up and he wants to stay over.

Immediately after I hung up. I get a text from the wife. Did you talk to the kids?

This is a setup for something?

Maybe I should text. Get to the point!

How is it that I was doing pretty good. I start feeling sad, I call the kids, and then she starts communicating with me.

Kid bait?

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Text her back that the son wants to spend the night, sounds good to you. Don't take the bait. Just sound like you are happy to have the kid around and let her draw whatever conclusions she is going to. You don't have to own her assumptions.


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S 6-19-08; H left 12-29-08. H home 12-09, Still MLC in 2012!
Me- I have my big girl panties on. Bring it.

LostPhil #1540781 07/31/08 07:46 PM
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Why don't you just text her back and tell her you'd like to pick the kids up if she doesn't have plans with them for later...and she can pick them up at such and such a time....is that doable?

Don't tell me why you don't think SHE will do it, tell me if it is doable for PHIL.

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Phil is exhausted. Phil doesn't want to deal with any of this. That is what I told her last night. I don't want to have the kids tonight because I for one don't have the energy for it. I have homework that needs done.

I don't need four kids at the house again tonight after 10 still making too much noise when I need to study.

I don't want to take any bait. I don't even want to respond. I'm not a dog. Texting me if I talked to the kids. What is it with her. I'm sure there is a motive and it ulterior.

Why doesn't she just come out and say. I have to do this can you get the kids. I will pick them up blah, blah.

No she does it in a way that is going to spin me out of control. Being secretive. I'll do what I want attitude. So is she going to dump the kids down her mothers all night?

Hmmm, isn't that funny. Just about the same time she texted my cousin emailed me. This is just too much of a coincidence. Within three minutes.

He isn't helping the situation. He always tries to get the kids to stay with us. I never agreed for his kids to stay there all the time either. I said he could stay there.

What the hell is wrong with me.

Amy, why should I make her life easier. I told her last night. I don't know what kind of a mood you are going to be in tomorrow just have the kids call me before they go to sleep.

Basically, I'm saying stop F'n with me.

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Not for nothing Phil, but why are you letting Cousin stay there. Get rid of him and his kids if it is to much for you. Seems ridiculous to me for you to take all that on in the middle of all this anyway.


Go get your son tonight and keep him with you. Make him watch a movie or something so you can do your homework in peace.



Ian


M- 48
XW- mentally 17
KIDS- 3- S19, D23, D28
Married- 17 years
Divorce final- 10/16/09

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