yeah I like that idea too, I just sent a text yesterday and got a response although it was a unique situation (my dad was in the hospital not serious it turns out) I will give it till middle or end of next week and try that. she said she was coming here for a bbq and to exchange the puppy next weekend so we shall see.
For the weekend my moms in town and i was thinking of checking out this garlic festable in Gilroy, anyone from cal be to it before? I hear it�s got so really good food. Other then that it will just be nice to see her it�s been a little while. It has been a wile since I have run 5 plus miles so I am going to work a long run into the weekend and start getting back into some distance stuff.
Me 27, W26 T-12 M-4 SEP 4/29/08 Holding 250 miles Awaiting Support Current
this sounds like something a bunch of board teenage boys with bb guns would do. I just remembered that my W was trying to get me to get a pedicure one day, but i have a hideous big toe where I lost my toe nail and we figured that no person should have to be subject to working with that. kind of like Mr Deeds' black foot.
Me 27, W26 T-12 M-4 SEP 4/29/08 Holding 250 miles Awaiting Support Current
((((((Lost)))))) Hey we really our living parallel lives. I will post in the morning we had similar days, I think you did good but you can hit me with 2x4 and I you if we need it.
Me 27, W26 T-12 M-4 SEP 4/29/08 Holding 250 miles Awaiting Support Current
Ok it really was not that bad but I had a bit of backslide and I am hard on myself. So my mom was in town and we were hanging out when she said I would like to have lunch with your W. I laughed and said she was crazy there was no way that was happening. She said o yeah and called her. She said �I want to have lunch with you so meet us half way� W said �ok I am getting in the car now see you soon� well after I picked my jaw off the ground in disbelief we hit the road. We meet her for a great late lunch early dinner. We had friendly conversation and all was well. It was hard on me because I had not prepared for it and the whole lack of wedding ring drives me insane, but I managed to behave perfectly.
We decide to go see the movies WallE. This turned out to be really cute but I was not excepting it to be romantic. There was a lot of mushy little stuff that started to get to me, and as a side note my W laughed a lot and I have not seen her really laugh in quite a while. There was a bit of mushiness at the end and i got rapped up in it and grabbed her hard. Well that is when the Ice Queen returned, I got a very surprised death look and her hand was as limp as a corpse. I released it and we went on as if nothing happened, she was pleasant the rest of the night. When it was time to leave big hugs and ILY between her and my mom, then she gave me the less then friends hug she reserves for me and since I was pissed off I said �well ILY too� she gave an angry moan and I said �and I don�t care if you don�t like that�
I drove the whole way home feeling like a failure. My mistakes were holding my W hand and telling her ILY, but they felt worse to me. I have been acting friendly and it has been working, I would have never thought she would drive up to see us. I just hope I did not undo a bit of hard work. I go back and forth between I will be her friend at all cost and weather or not you like it I am going to show you, you are loved. I know witch of those two paths has been working and witch has not but I could not stop a little bit from coming out.
Probably small mistakes but we judge everything in such small baby steps its hard not to view small mistakes as large ones. She is coming back up next weekend to bring me the dog so another chance to be better. plus I was not thinking I was going to be seeing her so that threw all detaching out the window and its time to start over with that.
Me 27, W26 T-12 M-4 SEP 4/29/08 Holding 250 miles Awaiting Support Current
Well, you took a risk with the romantic ending of the movie, and it didn't quite work out, but I think that's OK. You experimented with something because you felt passionate. I don't think that you made a huge blunder there. At some point in the future, you may try something like that again, and she may react completely differently.
As far as being angry with her when you said goodbye: It's hard to not react angrily to her, I KNOW, especially in a situation where you were caught off-guard seeing her. We just both have to get to a point of no expectations, no expectations and no reactions from us to perceived rejection or hurt.
Other than that you had a great lunch, shared a great movie, and got to see her--all positives!
So, don't feel like a failure, you're NOT in any way, just let it strengthen your resolve to react differently next time.
It is in the shelter of each other that people live.--Irish proverb
I think that you are right and that is pretty much how I felt about it when i woke up this morning, funny how time changes our outlook on eveything. yesterday was just one of those moments when you want to shake them and make them see that things are not as dark and gloomy as they want to think they are.
Me 27, W26 T-12 M-4 SEP 4/29/08 Holding 250 miles Awaiting Support Current
Look at it more as testing the waters. You dunked your foot and had to pull it straight back out again! It must have been really have for you and I think you coped really well - I would have cried!
It was good she agreed to come though, my h won't let me near his family if he is about. I wasn't even allowed to go in and use the toilet even though I was desperate! Not to analyse too deeply but can you list any positives from the meeting or anything she said? What were the positives you can take away from this and do more of next time?
JWS- i think it is fine...she wanted to see you and your mom..she withdrew when you got too close...and overall the feeling was fine..she doesnt know you felt all this that you posted here and thats good... i think it went well and i think its ok you took a risk..now you know what works and what doesnt.
today is a new day!
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I just remembered that my W was trying to get me to get a pedicure one day, but i have a hideous big toe where I lost my toe nail and we figured that no person should have to be subject to working with that. 
kind of like Mr Deeds' black foot. 
