How are you. I'm settling in. Just bout about 4K worth of brand new furniture at IKEA. (SOME assembly required (!) D17 helped me with the whole thing. Thanks for continuously telling me to take care of me. It finally kicked in. Here's whatthe apartment looks like. I'm pretty psyched about it. It is big, clean, bright, brand new appliances, and NOT some guys garage! I'm 6 miles from the kids, 1.5 miles form S10's hockey rink and 10 miles from work. At night, it LOOKS like Manhatten, but it is just Bridgeport, CT!
Thanks, again. BTW What IS it about teenage girls and their rooms. My D's is an absolute disaster area.
I can't remember. Did you DD17 graduate this year or will she graduate next year? My DD17 just turned 17 in May and will be a senior in the fall. I can't believe it! My oldest DD just turned 20, hard to believe she isn't a teen anymore!
Hugs, Yoyo
Life's challenges are not supposed to paralyze you, they're supposed to help you discover who you are. -- Bernice Johnson Reagon
Yoyo, my D17 has one more year of high school. Hope I live through it! I had so much fun in high school, but D17 hates it. Right now she hates everything. She doesn't want to live here, but she doesn't want to stay at her dad's either. She wants to move out with friends as soon as she turns 18. She jas had trouble even finding a job for the summer, but she thinks she can support herself and finish high school. She needs a reality check.....but is there one that will keep her safe?!?! Yes, she's been in counseling, but she knows the right things to say. I even suggested she start a "gratitude journal" .....she just thinks I'm out of my mind!
FLTC, thanks for checking in. Your apt sounds terrific! (I'll check out the web site). I am happy to hear that you are adjusting so well. Of course, we would like life to be different, but it sounds like you are making the most of a bad situation. I am proud of you! (Maybe D17 needs a year in Iraq!)
It's because of my virtual support group here that my head is above water. It would be neat if we could all really get togther! Let me know what you think of the apartment. I couldn't stand to live in a two family house or another garage...Ugh! My D17 is a handful too, as you remember. She told me the other day that most of her acting out was because of the separation and impending divorce. No surprise.
Maybe both of our daughters could stand a talk with the Air Force recruiter (Much better standards of EVERYTHING than my beloved Army).
My DD17 doesn't really act out, but she is pretty self-indulged. She can't stand to be "bored" and thinks she never should be. She is always wanting to take a trip somewhere and go shopping. She seems to forget that I'm not made of money!
She has very expensive taste. She has a nice car already, 2005 4runner, but she wants something like a Mercedes, Infiniti, or a BMW. I just always tell her she has to take that up with her daddy, LOL. Gets her off of my back. He then of course complains to me about her having that kind of taste.
She is at the point she is just ready for her senior year to start and get it over with so that she can go off to college. I guess 17 is the age they think they are grown, but have no idea of the realities that come with adulthood!
Hugs, Yoyo
Life's challenges are not supposed to paralyze you, they're supposed to help you discover who you are. -- Bernice Johnson Reagon
Yoyo, if only we could sign them up for a game show where the object was to spend money as fast as possible. Sounds like our daughters would be a great team!!! Hugs back to you!
Hi Mat. I have a friend at work who has a D17 and boy is this girl putting my friend through the ringer. I really feel for you all with teenagers, especially daughters.
Of course I feel for me too with a S14 and S(sooner to be)13.
Anyway how are you doing? What are you doing these days for you? Did you sign up for that counseling session yet?
Me 54 DS19 and DS17 Married 06/1989 Divorced 01/2011
I was informed a few days ago that there was a mistake on our 2006 taxes and we owe money. It was an honest mistake, but now we owe plus a penalty. X wants to split it 50-50 since we were still married then. And he wanted the money immediately (2 days notice). I told him I had the money to pay 30% and I wrote the check to the IRS and left it for him to add his check and mail it off. Today he had a fit and says he'll take me to court if I don't pay the rest by Aug 1. My lawyer says if it went to court the judge would most likely base the payment on our respective incomes. In that case I should owe less than 15%.
Question for you: should I call his bluff and see if he really takes it to court? OR take money out of savings and keep a more friendly atmosphere (and not spend MORE MONEY ON LAWYERS!). Overall we've been doing pretty good communicating and working to keep a friendly relationship.
What would you do????
I am trying to determine how mad I am just because he had money to go to Mexico and has already booked the same place for next year, plus he's had 2 other trips that I know of, and a trip next week.....that plus keeps gas in his boat as well as weekly dinner dates with his gf). I bought myself a new pair of shoes!
