In order to better ourselves by getting on with our lives. Putting the things that we went through behind us, learning from those experiences. How do you cope with what I call "Busy brain"?
It usually happens at night when I lay in bed. As much as I try to just reflect on the little things to make myself comfortable, Those thoughts of abandonment, rejection, selfish actions, hatred and all those other thoughts that make me anxious come to the forefront of my mind.
How can I turn these thoughts off. Some days its easier, most of the time its hard and painful to where my mind is obsessed with them.
That's a toughy-- I have the same problem. Have been getting by (barely) on 3-4 hrs sleep a night for months.
A lot of people here suggest exhausting yourself physically, so that you'll just conk out when you fall into bed. The trick, i gather, is to do it earlier in the day, because you'll only rev yourself up if you exercise right before bedtime.
I need to do this myself, but it's hard to be consistent about exercise when you're so tired (vicious cycle).
Something Eckhard Tolle suggests that sometimes helps me is to concentrate on my breathing for a few minutes-- be mindful of your breathing and nothing else. It interrupts the train of obsessive thought, at least for it bit.
For me personally, I replace bad memories with good ones.
Seems like the more positive NEW experiences I have, the more the painful and hurtful old ones move to the back of my mind.
It does take so long it seems sometimes. But here I sit, a year and a half since my divorce and nearly two years since the bomb, and I can tell you that I never once dream about the pain and betrayals from that time.
You will get there rider. You just need to find that new direction for your life today that will begin filling it with positive memories.
Bill
"Don't tell me the sky is the limit when there are footprints on the moon."
