Heartsick Over The Big D

[cat03]

as someone in the S forum once posted "it might be too late but damn if it's going to be too little"

[Reincarnated]

I am writing that one down, cat.

And Kimmie, I am right there in the trenches with you. It hurts. More than I ever thought I could hurt. With all the things I've thrown at it, I think the one that works is time.

[Grace_O]

If the C you have isn't working for you (ie: with the "move on" stuff) you can always find someone else or tell them you'll move on when you're ready.

I know it hurts in a way I never thought I could hurt. It will get better though. There just isn't another option.

HUGS

[cat03]

ditto on the C, you should be able to leave the office with some sort of satisfaction that you were understood and that your issues where addressed and that your C gave you the kind of help you needed.

[Kimmie Lee]

I am through with C now, and get support from church instead.

Somebody, please stop me!!! I am so tempted to send H an email wishing him well and a Happy Father's Day. I do admire how he tries to do the right thing by Step-D18, even if it did help break us up.

I just don't know. Our last contact a couple months ago was negative, and then there's the support hearing which left H pretty angry about having to give me more $$.

[Kimmie Lee]

Does this sound ok to send?

Hi Jimmie

I just wanted to wish you well, and a Happy Father's Day on Sunday. I really do mean that, as I always did admire your dedication to doing the right thing by Andrea.

Kimmie

[Reincarnated]

Kimmie--
Ack. I wish someone who has had a Father's Day or two under their belt responded....

Maybe even less words...?

Happy Father's Day, for all that you've done for Andrea.
Best wishes,
Kimmie

I am trying to figure out the very same thing--I was pissed when x ignored Mother's Day when he called for the kids that day. I don't want to model behavior that ticked me off.

[Kimmie Lee]

Thanks Donna. I go back and forth about this and I haven't sent it yet. H would probably see it as pursuing because we have had zero contact lately and it would come out of the blue.

Well anyway, I just got back from my graduation and it was nice to be with my family. I'm glad it's over though, and I can cry.

I can't believe I still feel this way.

[Reincarnated]

I am so sorry, Kimmie. I got the initial bomb a full year before you were separated, and it is only now that I am starting to feel better...
each in their own time. Don't be too hard on yourself.

I'm glad you were able to spend time with your family--that is important.

[Kimmie Lee]

On the other hand, it might shake things up.

Screw it. I'll sleep on it and see how I feel in the morning.