FISH IS GETTING DIVORCED

[AmyC]

I don't recall reading where anyone said he was NOT a good man but many "good" people are foolish and choose to feed their starving egos and fleshly desires as opposed to doing to hard work that can save a family. A person is either in this or they are out. Fish is out. Good for him. Others will come and go because of a lack of an ability to deny themselves for any length of time for a greater good. In the 2+ months that you have been here what have you learned and what will you emulate? Is it going to be new skills, behaviors and attitudes via lessons of the many people that have gone before you or one impatient, impulsive, self-satisfying, floundering fish out of water? I don't really care but you should answer that for yourself just so YOU know.

"Good" does not equal wise anymore than choosing to name himself "fish" meant he was gonna be able to swim.

[*KS*Chick*]

I still hear Jazz music in this thread....

It's funny how people get upset with those that were supporting them, because they're being honest and trying to save themselves from themselves. But when the answers aren't what they want to hear, it's all pissed off and go to hell because I'm cheating on my wife now - I gave it my all for SIX WHOLE MONTHS (LOL!)........

Just sayin'.

Let's let the thread die..........flush Amy!

[AmyC]

FLUSH!!!!!!!!

Off you go to the "big water", fish!!

Careful of the sharks...

[cw68]

I'm sure he's a good man and will be fine. It's his daughter that I'm worried about right now.

[catfan]

Hey Fish, I do hope you realize that the 2x4s being swung at you aren't to beat you up. It's because people here ARE supporting you by trying to help you not make a bit mistake and later regret it because of the possible hurt and pain it will cause you and others.

We all are human and there is a point of no return for all of us, just be ABSOLUTELY sure you are at that point. Also realize hopping into another relationship isn't the solution and you may, without realizing it, be avoiding issues that you know need to be addressed. So please take a step back, take a deep breath and let the dust settle before you race down this path.

[Pinkribbon]

Most of this sounds very self righteous to me.

[ms ladybug]

I'm sure he's a good man and will be fine. It's his daughter that I'm worried about right now.

Exactly what I was going to say. If there were no children involved...Fish would be fine. He'll find himself heartbroken, but he'll be able to heal.

His daughter, is another story. Fish is going to need a healthy relationship with his ex-wife for A LONG TIME still. Dating her friend ain't doing it. He needs to concentrate on his little girl.

Take it from a woman whose daddy was a WAS. She's gonna hate you for giving up. Right or wrong, in her little world, you've given up, and you chose to be out of HER house, dating someone else than IN HER house, loving her mom.
May not make much sense to a grown up, but that's how little girls see things.

[Jack_Three_Beans]

: )

Pink oh it is. It is righteous.

"I want to save my marriage, I'll do anything...was that a skirt?"

Men are stupid and have no patience.

Rinse repeat until lessons are learned.

Feel better for pointing out that we are bashing Fish? Superior for not judging him but the responses from others with years under their belt?

Many are the reasons, to include the eventual suffering that this relationship will cause.

We never say don't move on. We do say move on when you are healed.

[*KS*Chick*]

and also - the choice to move on should be made with a clear head......chasing your wife's best friend isn't exactly clear headed.....

[whatisis]

Well KS, we do know the head that's doing his thinking these days and it's not the one on his shoulders !