ok she came over last night. She was a hour late because she stoped to have a beer after work with her friends and then got called back to work. her story was a little flimsy but i wasent going to push it. she did give me a big hug when she came in. it felt realy nice, beer breath and all lol. i had cooked her dinner ( a huge 180 im kind of mister hotdoghs and mac&cheese) and then i had made her pudding for dessert ( she LOVES pudding) and we watched a movie she has wanted to see.
she asked me when we sat down if it was ok if she spent the night. I WAS THRILLED. it turnes out she ment the couch but that is still a victory as she hasent stayed the night here since feb. i tucked her in and went upstaires. she asked again if it was ok she was on the couch and i told her " you can sleep anywere you want here."
this morning i caught myself following her around so i went down to the couch and watched tv as she got ready. before she left she tucked me into the couch. i just got a text from her thanking me again for the easter basket i gave her last night as well
there were some rockey parts. she downloaded her digital camera into the comp to put photos on her myspace. i noticed but didnt say anything about the fact she deleted all of our pictures toghether on her memory. that hurt. but she did spent the nite in the same house. therea a salsa lesson thats free tonight and i asked if she wanted to go. she said it would depend how tired she was. i felt like i was putting pressure on her so i told her i was going myself anyway. she looked at me for a second and said she might make it. im 400 pnds and 6'3 i dont salsa but for her i will. i think she knows that and was a little startled that i would do that alone. well what do ya all think
Are you still going to salsa dance if she doesn't show up? I'd love to see that, big guy!
Don't stress over the pictures. She's showing BIG progress by even being with you last night. Remember recently how "nervous" she was around you?
Why did she ask to spend the night? Is it a long drive to her place, or did she just want to be "home"?
Me 36 Husband 35 D5 S2 separated: 10/29/07-present Served divorce papers 1/22/09 "When the world gives out beneath your feet, it is time to learn how to fly."
hey ladey B!! i was just going to e-mail ya to see how you are doing. hoew the H moving sich? anyway she lives 20 minutes away and asked to spent the night over dinner. she did say during MC today she felt nervious but decided to stay anyeway as she didnt want to worry me when i woke up and found her gone. i dont know why she is nervious besided the fact that she catches herself being close to kissing me and quickly looks guilty and backs off. Hell she gave me like 10 hugs yeaturday!!
her big problem is makeing time for me instead of her friends. i have off next friday and asked if she wanted to go dancing. she said wensday worked better as she was going to " have a girls night" she has had a damn girls night every week for the last month! ( lol) o well. i wont pressure her. i think that her friends put a lot on her if she tells them she want to see me. thats not right, but i cant do anything about it besided be my self and hope she notices and remembers i was a man worth loveing once.
Hi Marcum, I haven't updated my post because there is no update. H hasn't moved back home. We haven't gone to MC, or anything. He came over the day before Sat, and was a complete ass to me in front of my family. Then, got mad and decided not to spend Easter with us at his g'mas house. Guess who he's hurting...not me, he's hurting his kids. He pulled this at Thanksgiving, Christmas, and now Easter. I should have known. Then, he comes over all sweet on Mon., gets action from me, and then leaves...nice.
I'm pretty much pissed at this point, and trying to avoid him before I regret all the things I have to say to him.
Things are looking up for you? 10 Hugs?
Me 36 Husband 35 D5 S2 separated: 10/29/07-present Served divorce papers 1/22/09 "When the world gives out beneath your feet, it is time to learn how to fly."
yup!! the C agrees she is very whisy washy thought. I got a real awakeninmg when the C said " ya know i whish you would stand up for yourself sometimes. your going to creat a flip in your M dynamic where your the victime and shes gets to dominate you. in fact i would hazzard your the vistim now. she gets to never put you first and yet gets to be papmered by you" I was like wow.
dont want to pull a fish ( sorry good buddy had to ) but i am getting a little frustrated by the fact that she wants to be put first but wont even put me third.
she just called and told me she is comming over to do the taxes and wanted to warn me so i could still sleep. i just worked from 7 pm to 7 am. now she knowes that telling me she is comming over will throw me into a swirl of cleaning. i asked her to come ocver later so i could see her and still sleep. her responce
" its going to be nice out and i want to do something today and later i have plans." i whish just once i could feel inportant to her. mabey on her end she thought caslling me to warn me was a nice thing but she has to know i am going to sleep and haveing my seperated wife in the house who i miss terably will make me stay awake. mabey im just being needy and self absorbed. if i am call me on it i just feeel a littlwe down she could not wait to come over. i would have like to do something with her outside as well but she never even asked.
Very natural feeling man. I have them all the time. I feel very abandoned. Last week she told me she would not go out to dinner with me unless S12 was with us for it would be no fun.
well she hasent stoped by yet. God i miss her sometime. for 8 years she has been my friend and now she looks at me as a enemy. well i take that back she just told me she sees me as a friend, but i guess as not a very good one. mabey its her way of being in control but i feel like I am held to a higher standered then a friend but i dont have any of the benifits of that standered. i can be turned down to go out, told no, told she dosent have feelings for me, and look at throuigh a magnifying glass when i speak to see hidden meanings. in return ui must act like a forgiving husband and try to find a PMA, i realise she is in control and all i can do is hold on and pray. i realy miss my friend right now.
well im going to go to the salsa lesson anyway. its free and she might come around someday so i better be prepaired huh.
) but i am getting a little frustrated by the fact that she wants to be put first but wont even put me third.