It's Really Over, Throwing Him Out~ this so hard

[Puppy Dog Tails]

He writes her a "no-contact" letter, the content to be approved by you. In it, he says nothing romantic, but makes it clear that he wants to work on his marriage and they can have NO contact, ever again, and he asks her to respect his wishes. The letter gets delivered by you, or a 3rd party.

Transparency means that he changes his phone numbers, and gets detailed billing on the new cellphone, to come to YOU, and he gives you his daily schedule and checks in with you several times throughout the day. If he won't agree to these things, then he's not serious about trying to end it.

There is no "trying" to end contact. You either end it, or you're not SERIOUS about ending it.

[water2moon]

Ok I see..Well we didn't do the letter thing but he did call her yetserday as per my my request. I wanted to hear him say the words "I am home with my wife, this is my choice and we are done." It took almost an hour because she just would not give up, she kept changing the subject and saying things like " you're speaking to me like this? And you're defending HER?" I just hope she finally gets it although he didn't help matters when he ended it 3 different times and then went back to her. So she feels like why should this time be any different. But this time I actually threw him out and she saw that he had his out yet chose to go back home. I just hope and pray that 2 weeks from now I am not going through the same thing.

A for the phones, we haven't changed numbers yet but he has given me his phone and he is using mine. I do have access to the bill but for the past 2 weeks he was using a phone that she got for him on her plan, so there are ways around everything I guess.
Now I just need to DB in a big way and focus on all of the things I know I need to change and work on and be happy again..It's as though I live day to day now wondering when this will happen to me again..I guess I think that way to prepare myself should it actually happen again, not sure If I can live through it again though.This has been so emotionally draining.