Very passive aggressive, blames me for problems with SD17, etc. It's all just a load of crap. As soon as you try to "fix" one of the complaints they have against you, there will be two more lame-ass excuses for why the M doesn't work.
Exactly! It's just breaking my heart. He was such a good man and he was HAPPY then! He really was! He laughed and joked and we were sooooo close. Everyone I know is just plain shocked that we are separated. And I am with them!
I keep crying and crying. I miss my husband so much! And yes, I was blamed all the time for problems with my Skids...even though I followed his instructions and they wouldn't obey me. Then when they didn't, he would say I didn't do enough to make them. Then when I did, he would say I was too harsh.
Step-families really suck.
M: ten years BS23, BS17 Step-SS20, SS16, SS14 Separated: August 07
I sent an email to my H asking him to let me know what items he wants to keep. He didn't answer. He never answers and then when I will be forced to make decisions in order to get the separation papers processed, he will tell everyone I'm doing this and what a bad guy I am. Never fails.
My rentors found a place to live and told me that it will be about a month and I'll be able to move into my rental house. It's actually the home we shared when we first married and all my best memories are there! I am excited to be able to get out of this apartment and get settled. AND GET MY CAT BACK! :-)
But I would trade all of it for my husband. I miss him so much.
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M: ten years BS23, BS17 Step-SS20, SS16, SS14 Separated: August 07
I'm glad you're able to get back into your house. Make it your safe, comfortable place. I get the same thing with my h blaming me for everything, and making me into the bad guy...oh and I also got the vegetable complaint so I can totally relate.
Me 36 Husband 35 D5 S2 separated: 10/29/07-present Served divorce papers 1/22/09 "When the world gives out beneath your feet, it is time to learn how to fly."
H was trying to talk me into doing things that would definitely not be in my best interests financially. And he's whining because he decided to sell our family home and move into a rental duplex we own. It's as big as our house, so why the whine? I'm moving into a SMALL rental house we have and I'm happy to have a home! He also found out today that his two younger sons are smoking pot. And his oldest son is hiding out because he has a warrant for his arrest.
And meanwhile, my son that he said is a piece of [censored] got a Dean's Scholarship at a well-known university!
I have been noticing lately that I don't care about saving the marriage anymore. I mean, it was Plan A, but after months of his verbal abuse and punishing me when I don't behave, I'm done! (He cancelled my cell phone and gas card because I was CRYING SO MUCH over seeing him on that singles site, of which he is STILL advertising himself!)
My love for him has hit an all time low. Do I need a spanking for feeling like throwing in the towel?
M: ten years BS23, BS17 Step-SS20, SS16, SS14 Separated: August 07
My love for him has hit an all time low. Do I need a spanking for feeling like throwing in the towel?
Absolutely not!!
I'm so sorry things have gone the way they have.
However.. this is a time where he's re-evaluating wanting to be married to you, and it makes complete sense that you would do the same! Coming to the conclusion that this is NOT what you want is a perfectly OK conclusion to reach. Although I'm sure it really hurts to be there.
Congratulations to you and your son, that's an excellent accomplishment.
Me 35, H 38; Together 13.5 yrs, M 7 Bomb 1 10/07/06 Sep'd 1/14/07 - 4/15 Piecing: 4/07 - 9/07 Bomb 3 10/11/07: Never loved you, let's separate 2/08 slowly improving 7/08 Piecing (7/25/08 rings back on!!) Current thread
I'm going to say this real quiet, but there are some marriages that might not be a great idea to save. You might have one. The difference in the kids is pretty incredible. Hmmmm, where does that come from?
Let me reread your thread. I know it isn't pretty!
Me 35, H 38; Together 13.5 yrs, M 7 Bomb 1 10/07/06 Sep'd 1/14/07 - 4/15 Piecing: 4/07 - 9/07 Bomb 3 10/11/07: Never loved you, let's separate 2/08 slowly improving 7/08 Piecing (7/25/08 rings back on!!) Current thread
