My kids at school and D7 loved me today. My friends called and I felt special.
It was a very good day.
I didn't hear from H and thought I wasn't going to.
I went to meet my lawyer -my lawyer told me H's lawyer has a crush on me. He told her.
HELLO???!!!
then I went to softball practice,
H called and left a long message:
"Hey it's me, well H if you dont remember my voice. I just got home and showered I am going your way and want to stop by and drop some things off for D7. I brought the dogs down and want to keep them with me for a couple of days so I wont be so lonely. Well call me as soon as you get this "
so it gets stranger.
I called him back and he wanted to know when we would be home so he could come by. I was nice but ready to get off the phoone. H asked me what was wrong. I said absolutely nothing . I would see him later.
So H came by. In his NICE truck. THe one OW was driving.
H brought D7 gifts. H came inside because D7 had to eat dinner just picked up. H got comfortable.
H brought down deer meat so I asked him if he would give me some. It is very healthy for you. One of the leanest meats. H said he would.
Then asked if my boyfriend has ever eaten deermeat.I told him I did not have a boyfriend. H then said whoever you are dating. I said H i dont have a boyfriend.
So we watched tv. D7 was sooo happy. H didnt talk much. H looked like in ad aze a t times.
H then said OUT OF THE BLUE ," Oh it just occured to me it was two years ago today?"
I said what that you filed? H said yes. I said, I know.and it didnt just occur to you.
So he stayed for 2 hrs and then just left.
H looked very tired.
When he left he gave me the deermeat and grunted as I said thanks.
kiki- Your H is puttin out the feelers there...wow. I love your attitude though...it was a freakin interesting day. Appreciate that and well, tomorrow may be another...or maybe not...but whatever it is, I am sure you will enjoy it.
Ok this is what I have been thinking is very similar:
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True reconnection will not begin to take place until the near the end of withdrawal--going into acceptance. The spouse in crisis will begin to disassociate himself/herself w/the replay antics, i.e., new friends, drinking, etc. They will begin to dress and act like the people you once knew. They will begin to smile a bit and look you in the eyes as well. This will not occur all at once--it's very gradual. He/she will begin to gradually take an interest in their surroundings. They will start to make real contact w/co-workers, old friends (prior to mlc) and begin to take up the hobbies that they once loved. The contact w/their respective parents and family will be noticeable first. Contact w/them will become more frequent and slowly they will begin to take more interest in their children. Their interest in the pets will begin again. As they start to move deeper into the reconnection, they will then begin to take notice of their former homes and you, the spouse will be the last. I have never understood it, but we are the first in the disconnection an the last for reconnection. The mlcer may find excuses to come to your home or meet w/you to discuss trivial issues. Generally they come around to see where your head and heart are at regarding them. They may even sit down w/you and toss out feelers about some of the things that they have done just to test your reactions. They may even ask you if you have someone new your life.
But again no expectations. Im ok either way. I dont expect anything from him. Im just moving forward.
Today is my deposition with his lawyer. im ready to get it over with.
H is funy.
H told D7 in front of me yesterday, he had no valentine..D7 volunteered to be his.
At least you got some venison!! YUMMY!!! I usually have my brothers ship me over some too
Sending you lots of prayers you don't go crazy during deposition.
But if I read you correctly, you won't. Your h has not drove you crazy so you shall be JUST FINE!
Sending out feelers??? YOU THINK I mean...that wasn't even tactfully fishing for answers.....eeeesh!
And no....he did not forget. Good for him that he has enough human emotion in him left to remember what a scumball he was for filing on Valentines Day!!! HA! I bet even the court clerks were looking at it going.....what a uncaring dumbass
Change the Policy. Allow PM's Free all of us.
Also some new and improved emoticons would be nice!
At least you got some venison!! YUMMY!!! I usually have my brothers ship me over some too
Sending you lots of prayers you don't go crazy during deposition.
But if I read you correctly, you won't. Your h has not drove you crazy so you shall be JUST FINE!
Sending out feelers??? YOU THINK I mean...that wasn't even tactfully fishing for answers.....eeeesh!
And no....he did not forget. Good for him that he has enough human emotion in him left to remember what a scumball he was for filing on Valentines Day!!! HA! I bet even the court clerks were looking at it going.....what a uncaring dumbass
Change the Policy. Allow PM's Free all of us.
Also some new and improved emoticons would be nice!
At least you got some venison!! YUMMY!!! I usually have my brothers ship me over some too
Sending you lots of prayers you don't go crazy during deposition.
But if I read you correctly, you won't. Your h has not drove you crazy so you shall be JUST FINE!
Sending out feelers??? YOU THINK I mean...that wasn't even tactfully fishing for answers.....eeeesh!
And no....he did not forget. Good for him that he has enough human emotion in him left to remember what a scumball he was for filing on Valentines Day!!! HA! I bet even the court clerks were looking at it going.....what a uncaring dumbass
I'm with you!
TGIF!
Hus and update after depo
Jeanette
Change the Policy. Allow PM's Free all of us.
Also some new and improved emoticons would be nice!
I mean...that wasn't even tactfully fishing for answers.....eeeesh!