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Jeanette , did you see the story about Rich's friend on aol.com??Teddy , right???

Sad..so sad!!

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H just called . It went well. I told him hello them proceeded to tell him D7 was not around. She was home sick with my mom. D7 now has an ear infection. Poor baby.

I expected H to get off the phone, but he started asking questions about her and if she went on her trip.When did she get sick...

Then H told me he was thinking about leaving the dogs in with his parents.I told him how much I missed them. H said we will see.


then I told him D7 would call/or he cam call her around 7pm and he said no dont worry about it..just tell her I called and was thinking about her. Ill call again tom.

Just to hear H say he was thinking about her was odd because I can't remember the last time he said that.

It was a normal conversation, I think I cut it short.

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It was a normal conversation, I think I cut it short


Good for you Keekers!!! A normal conversation \:\) Wow! Do you see how your left feeling OK. It is ok.....

He keeps coming up with more excuses to call! I'm so glad he is taking more interest in your daughter.

Keep your thinking cap on!

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Hi Jeanette...

I am stressed..why?

My lawyer ..well her partner called me to tell me I'm getting depositioned Friday. You would think we were millionaires!!!

I hate this. I hate that i have to go throughthis. I hate that I will be questioned.

I hae that all he has to do is agree, and I wouldnt have to go through any of this.

Yes, I am venting.

Ok, what am I learning from this..hmm....

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Lets see....

Your learning...

Patience
self-contol
understanding
caring
to be a better parent
to be a better person
to love yourself
LOTS OF LEGALCRAP!
To be a great friend!

Your learning all good things...... \:\)

I woulda added

anger
frustration
madness

and all that kinda stuff but uhm....yeah, those are emotions but I guess that all goes along with learning self control over these emotions

Oh to let looooooooooooooose oneday, I'd be a happy camper


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Kiki,

Sorry about the depsition (and all this mess), but I think you'll do just fine.

Jeanette is spot on with all you're learning. I 'll bet you could add to the list \:\)

I hope D7 is better soon.

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I hope you are doing ok. Good luck on the Depo. You are in my thoughts and prayers I completely can understand what you are going through. Sounds like we are in the same sort of sitch at this moment.

Good Luck

Jeanette,
You are not kidding about any of this.


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Your learning...

Patience
self-contol
understanding
caring
to be a better parent
to be a better person
to love yourself
LOTS OF LEGALCRAP!
To be a great friend!

Your learning all good things......


There is one other little thing I have learned and it could be considered self control but I think it deserves it's own category. It is.......

How not to kick your spouses @ss. lol.

And later we might add FORGIVENESS.

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Ok, thanks girls. I AM learning. I guess I just get soooo frustrated sometimes.

So much is going on in my head right now. I guess it is because it is Valentine's . I can deal with being without a man and all, but...H filed on Valentine's day. On the first paperwork I saw the date he sighed was Valentine's day.

It BUGS me , yes. But that I will feel and let go.

I get frustrated because for a moment there , there was a battle in my head if H was being sincere.

I think I just get mad at myself for letting that thought slip in my head.

I have to move forward.

H has always been able to manipulate me, I believe. I just couldn't see it.

He would be nice and loving and that would shut me up.

I think H doesn't realize I HAVE grown and now it is obvious to me.

Look, I'm not dumb. H DID NOT call d7 today as he said he would. She is sick and he has not talked to her in 6 days.

I feel as if H was phony.

I feel H can't even be sincere ib his care for D7.

I am not upset. Im not sad.
I just cant be in denial of what is.

It makes my decision easier.

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this will pass
hopefully your H will be there for D7
believe for the best
this is probably an emotional week for him as well
you have been amazing thru it all
and its not over
keep your chin up
PMA
pray
youll get to the other side whatever it is
peace


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Ok, thanks girls. I AM learning. I guess I just get soooo frustrated sometimes.


Hey, We are all still learning. I know I feel as if I learn something new everyday in regards to all of this. The one thing I have learned and it gets me through is that I never waivered on my love for my H. I never strayed from the marriage. It does not matter what he thinks, I know the truth and I know that if we do not work out I will be ok. I will move on and have a very happy life because I am a good person.

Out of everything I have done I am greatful that I have taken the time to figure out what he was going through.

Keep your head up. I know this is easier said than done. Have fun and do things for you. One of the things that I have found serenity in is my friends. We are actually having a girls day on Saturday. We have been doing this on the weekends that I do not have my kids and it is so much fun.

You are in my thoughts and prayers.


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H has always been able to manipulate me, I believe. I just couldn't see it.

He would be nice and loving and that would shut me up.


Almost everything you write sounds just like me and my H. It is so weird how similar they all are. This past weekend was a turning point for me. I actually am able to say he is not going to do this to me anymore.


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