Recognized a pattern, don't know if I like it.

[saffie]

Today, one of my GF's was talking about a scene in one of the Harry Potter films - it was the bit when Harry first kisses the girl he likes, (Cho?), and she bursts into tears. Confused he goes and tells Ron and Hermione about it. Hermione then goes into a three minute dialogue of all the emotions that would have been going through Cho's mind and Ron in awe says at the end he can't believe that anyone could possibly be feeling / thinking all those things at once. Hermione's answer was that Ron had the emotional range of a teaspoon..........does that ring any bells guys?

We are complex creatures......and that's why you love us!!!!!

[forward]

Bomb, my comments are coming from a R where the guy had all the emotional real estate and I had to be the sane rational one all the time.

It gets old. That's why having things be ALL ABOUT ME has been fun for me. I am really looking forward to doing some activities where I just get to be me and laugh again.

[bombardier50]

Saffie hits the bullseye...again.

You go Breton! Time to be insane and irrational!

We might have something in common. I was the sane, rational, slightly introverted military guy who did all the family budgeting, paid bills, did taxes, etc., etc. Wifey was the extroverted party girl. Opposites attract because each partner is seeking someone to balance their personalities. Our MC told us that as the marriage progresses, those same traits we found desirable can become irritating as hell.

Bomb

[sleeper]

Three MAJOR things happened this afternoon;

W called me after school because she wanted to see kids, WHILE I was driving kids to see her. No biggie, but we are getting "in sync"

Met her at her place, she took S, I took D. As I was geting back into my car I caught her "looking" at me.

She called me a couple of hours later to se what we (D and me) were doing.

She dropped S back off at my place and said she was going to get a bite with a GF. I said, I'm jealous, she began, well you could..... I interrupted with, "Na, I've already eaten"

The finale; She then asked if she should cut her hair back the way she wore it a year ago. Said the style she has now "isn't working for her". WHEN HER CRISIS BEGAN ONE YEAR AGO SHE CHANGED HER HAIRSTYLE. SHE IS REFERRING TO RETURNING TO THE HAIRSTYLE SHE HAD WHEN WE WERE TOGETHER. She then asked me, "what do you think?" I told her I always liked her old hairstyle, it was unique and very stylish and she looked great in it. I can't help but think this comment by her was symbolic, Freudian, coded, or all three.

I must now focus on having no expectations.

[bombardier50]

Sleep,
Hard not to be hopeful after that. But I like that last line of yours...no expectations. I've read a lot of sitches on this board, and MLC is friggin' roller coaster. You might be coming to the end of the ride...or cresting the top of a really big drop...

If I were you, I'd continue to deny her your essence. Stick to drinking spring water and pure grain alcohol, Mandrake.

Bomb

[forward]

Sleeper, I'm going to disagree w/Bomb.

It may be time to love her home.

[sgctxok]

I second breton. Go to the mattresses.

[bombardier50]

Bon Jour sleep,

Sounds like the majority agrees to give it a go. Good luck man! You know her better than anyone.

I'm out for a few days on business. I'll check in with ya when i get back.

Take care,

Bomb

[forward]

Sleeper, If you get brushed off, though, she's not quite ready.

Just grin and flirt!

[sleeper]

OK it's complicated, maybe;

OM is still in the picture. They don't seem as tight as they were, though. And at the same time W was a woman who had a lot of boyfriends (I was the one she chose) and she doesn't like being alone.

She called again today. I'm not sure how much of these new developments is her missing me and her missing us (me and kids as a family). She is definately more friendly and making a lot more contact.

I've tried to kiss her about three times over the past year (too early) and all I did was piss her off. the last time was on Hallowen. Because of that I'm a little gunshy.

My plan is to give her some mildly romantic items for Valentine's Day and see what her reaction is, go from there.