Yes, he was dating before the divorce and moved in with someone as soon as the D was final. I waited the relationship I got involved with just kind of happened out of friendship.
Did your ex's relationship get serious? My ex seems to spend every available minute with her new boyfriend? Long distance. Over an hour drive to get to his place. Also, did you have kids? How old? Mine are very opposed to the relationship that ex has become involved in.
Sounds like you are doing well. I've had a fun 2008 so far - booked a trip to Maui for me and the GF for Feb; me and the ex always dreamed of going there on a second honeymoon one day....well guess what!
My ex called last Friday and left a vm; questions about DD's New Year's Day, Feb and April vacations...all of that is detailed in the divorce decree...I mean detailed...I haven't called her back yet, and probably won't. I know, I know...you're supposed to communicate about the kids and do what's best for the kids, yada yada, but dang...read the decree, lady!
Me and DD are as tight as ever...hope your kids are faring well. My New Year's resolution was to write a book in 2008. I've started a rough outline! Fiction...
Have a great day all!
Me - 46 She - 36 Daughter - 10 Married 10 yrs 1st Bomb Date 12/17/06 (Merry Christmas!) D Bomb in January (Happy New Year!) Every other week custody of D10 She has OM who helped her walk away Divorced 07/05/07
Hope the Maui trip went well. I'm moving on, but still really miss my ex sometimes. I finally talked to here for the first time since August about 2 weeks ago. It was a fairly civil conversation, but she is still so angry and just won't forget about any of the bad things. She says again and again that I disrespected her.
I've started on the online dating thing. It's really awkward and I just can't bring myself to post a picture, which I'm sure won't get me very far meeting anyone.
I'm probably going to move to the midlife crisis board very soon. From what I can tell, my ex is still acting like she is in college. She has the house up for sale now and says she can't afford the payments. Also has all the appliances included, which really doesn't make any sense. I've offered to help out with the payments, so she and the kids could stay in the house. She is committed to selling it. She is spending a lot of time with OM and really forcing the relationship on our daughters. Plenty of sleepovers and kids are very uncomfortable with it. Oldest has come out several times and said that she doesn't like him. Very difficult situation to navigate with them in order the make them feel better and not interfere with ex's life.
Haven't gone to Maui yet...end of this month. Can't wait!!
Sounds like your ex has her head up her arse. My only advice is to not engage her in any R talk. Keep the discussions kid oriented only; the kids will be your only bond for the rest of your lives now.
Keep up the good work - be the best dad you ever dreamed of and keep yourself healthy and mentally positive. Your reward is coming.
Me - 46 She - 36 Daughter - 10 Married 10 yrs 1st Bomb Date 12/17/06 (Merry Christmas!) D Bomb in January (Happy New Year!) Every other week custody of D10 She has OM who helped her walk away Divorced 07/05/07
Ex stopped by my house last night to pick up her passport- first time in my house in over a year. Usually, we leave things for one another on my back patio. She has sold our marital home and closes on it today. Seems to be very low on cash and says she can't afford it. She's spending every free minute with OM. I asked her if she was going somewhere over spring break (she works in school) with OM that she needed her passport. She didn't say yes or no, but I assume that they have something planned.
She seemed very nice for a change. This after going ballistic on friend of hers for letting my dog out while I was gone. Lots of questions - are you dating? What have you been doing, etc. I took it as a good sign. She again reiterated that we are two different people. I replied with people change. No ill words spoken and we said goodnight.
