My heart has been completely torn apart

[I_Surrender]

Had a talk with W tonight.

This issue with OM is more serious than I thought. For months now this has been going on.

His (OM's) behaviour is criminal rather than an annoyance. W has not told me until now for fear of hurting progress we are making in our R.

He has been leaving threatening messages on her phone, calling our home and her cell at all hours. Waiting for her to arrive at work following her in and out of the workplace. Following her to the gym and coffee shops etc. Stalking, as well as degrading her at the workplace.

W talked to his supervisor at work, and he called it a police matter as well as a disciplinary matter at work, but W is not willing to proceed.

I honestly don't know what to do, just support her as a friend would, I guess.

If anyone has any suggestions, LMK or PM me.

She saved some of his threatening messages, should I call the police on W's behalf?

[I_Surrender]

Hy'all

The more things change, the more they stay the same.

For the most part things have been going in moderate ups and downs, but flaring a little more in the last two weekends.

This weekend, I decided to really try and go out of my way to make it a special and "normal" Christmas for everyone. This involves setting up an Xmas village inside the house. Something that takes a lot of work, but I enjoy it, and our visitors and kids love it when it's done.

Anyway W is in a less than amicable mood Friday night. I did cheer her up, I think, and talked her into a nice dinner Saturday night instead of fast food. Sunday a.m. she was on a tirade, and being for lack of a better work a B.

She really knows how to push my buttons. She's been successful at that for the past few weekends it seems.

Anyway she put me over the top, and pretty much ruined my Christmassy feeling. We were supposed to go out together, the morning. I declined, and while she was out disassembled the 25% complete xmas village and put it all back up in the attic.

The more things change, the more they stay the same it seems. She always gets stressed around the holidays, especially when there is a little mess or chaos, then bounces that on everyone else.

I've really had enough of this nonsense. Life's too short to put up with this misery. I am not really saying anything bad against my wife. I think it's just her personality. I just can't take it.

Anyway the task this week, is to get myself back in the Christmas spirit, which might mean doing some volunteer work or something like that.

Wish me luck, and all the best over the holidays to all of you.

[I_Surrender]

I just wanted to stop in and wish everyone here a very Merry Christmas. Journalling, reading or posting, this forum has been very helpful for me.

I know that each of us has different and difficult situations to go through.

Sometimes I feel that (myself and my wife) our position (as a couple) might be desireable. That being the fact we are together.

It has had it's very good moments, but also some very bad ones. It's been a roller coaster ride. I think the grass is greener on the other side of the fence theory applies here.

Today I find myself wondering if this is going to be our last Christmas together.

Anyway despite the ups and downs, I am still determined not to have anyone ruin my holiday fun, or drag me down.

Myself, I feel like I am finally pulling out of a kind of "limbo" mode and really looking seriously at my life goals. Step by step I am going to achieve them, and I am not going to let anyone stand in my way!
That's my new year goal to "limbo" no more

I hope that the new year brings you all new love and new positives in whatever it is that you seek.

All the best

[I_Surrender]

December 28 2007 Wife says she "is not happy" "is bored" wants a separation in the new year.

So I will close this thread. I wish you all the best of luck. I will be posting in the "surviving the big D" category from now on.

Thanks for all your help and posts they helped me a lot as did all the couples and individual counseling I received. I know this is about her, and not me.

Happy New Year!