I know what you mean. I used to buy my wife clothes, but I stopped. She returned every single clothing item I ever bought her. Not most, ALL. I stopped after about 7-8 years. (NO, they weren't naughty or anything, well, most weren't.) I would raid her closet and check sizes, ask (my and her,)female friends to help me pick nice but neutral things, etc. No matter.
Anyway, she asked me once not long after the OM / IDLYA bomb why I don't buy her clothes. I said that she had returned every clothing item I had ever bought her. She denied this, and I challenged her to name one thing she has now or ever kept that I bought her. Stupid thing to say on my part, anyway, she couldn't, probably just contributed to making her feel bad / guilty.
I liked Grace's sweater idea because I can pick a neutral one with her college logo on it. If she doesn't like that one, she still just doesn't like anything from me. That's ok too, but that's her thing, not me.
Besides, a college logo sweater beats the heck out of my smart aleck ideas above.
They are tempting though.
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She may end up cherishing the sweater since it seems like a bigger deal to her now. Unfortunately, the opposite may happen to make a point. My POV is to simply buy her something with the best intention and what she decides to do with it is up to her.
I found a sweatshirt of mine that she used to wear as a nightshirt in the winter. I hung it up in my closet for when she returns. She always looked so cute in it. (And out of it )
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She has taken an unusually high interest in football since her new job / OM. Mostly NFL, but some college. I never followed football that much, preferring baseball and hocky, which we followed together a little bit.
Now "I don't like sports."
Whatever, that's one of those "always wrong" topics, so I leave it alone mostly.
I know she is fervent about her college team. If she decides to make a point with it, I can handle that. It's her team anyway.
Is it wrong for me to secretly root agaist her teams?
She wears special shirts for "this guy" at the gym when she loses a bet with him on football.
Ah well, not in my control.
This'll become something better, or not.
I'm gonna be the old bad-a44 SOB I was before this anyway.
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She always looked so cute in it. (And out of it )
And we're not romantic enough....
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Okay guys you are missing the point. It is important to remember that our half of the population has the shopping gene. My H would give me weird gifts all the time. I didn't mind. Just return and shop. After all it is the shopping part that is fun. (A concept that sends most guys running, fast.) So, whatever it is you get make sure its returnable. Those after Xmas sales are great!
Of course, once in a while my H actually thought about what I really liked. That was great. Usually, I left pictures around the house with circles and arrows to help out.
Is it wrong for me to secretly root agaist her teams?
Nope...
Last year at a Christmas party...now mind you this is last year and it was a bit rocky, still a big blow up fight at Halloween, and this Christmas party was like a first date in a long time sort of thing.
Well they had Sumo Suit Wrestling... She REALLY wanted to Sumo fight me. She however waited until I had wrestled like everyone in the company first...those suits are heavy, and truth be told I drank ALOT prior to going to the party to kind of lubricate the night with her.
Soooo... All suited up she asks, "Are you ready?"
And I flattened her.
That felt great!
Sooooo...secretly rooting agaisnt your wife's team isn't sooo bad.
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Usually, I left pictures around the house with circles and arrows to help out.
Where were you when I was Christmas shopping? Circles and arrows are great!
Men like things like that! At least I would.
So, whatever it is you get make sure its returnable.
Check. It will be.
I always do.
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Well they had Sumo Suit Wrestling... She REALLY wanted to Sumo fight me. She however waited until I had wrestled like everyone in the company first...those suits are heavy, and truth be told I drank ALOT prior to going to the party to kind of lubricate the night with her.
Awesome, that's just awesome.
The problem for me is that she loves the Packers, and is in luuuuuve with Brett Favre. I actually like the Packers too.
Oh well, there are other teams out there who need a fan.
Maybe even some who can whip the Packers.
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I have had a smile on my face reading the last couple of pages of this thread.
Amy - I was giggling at your post. But I also wondered what made you think it was MLC? It very well could have been a LBS pushed to the breaking point........Not that I would know or anything.....
I can't even imagine buying my H a Christmas gift or even receiving one from him....... But he will also not be here on Christmas morning. If he were here, it may be different....
I do think that the digital picture frame is a good idea. Just FYI, Target had some on sale this week....
TFH - you sound like you are doing well. My H seems to be going through the same type of mood swings....I never know what he will be like when I walk into work on a day to day basis.... I can't imagine living with that - I give you a lot of credit....
W8ing, I love hearing from you. I still think that you're in a tougher sit than me because of the work thing. I think about how hard it must be, esp. with the family business. Stay strong woman!
About the Christmas gift, I'm not looking for a reaction, I'm just trying to act as-if for me. Like RCR posted on my first thread.
It seems to be working for me, if not for her. She likely won't be coming if we go to St Louis to be with my family, and I doubt that she will stay if we have Christmas here. I'm still going to act as-if. I'll quietly invite her down there, or to stay here. Her decisions are her own.
Maybe it will add to the "safe environment for her later..."
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My H seems to be going through the same type of mood swings
We could use a magic 8-ball for this... I think it would be about as predictable.
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I still think that you're in a tougher sit than me because of the work thing. I think about how hard it must be, esp. with the family business. Stay strong woman!