I've been gone quite a bit lately. I've been digging deep into my new house b/c I sold my other one! I have to be out of here by Dec. 8th and need to get the new one move-in ready!
Also, my divorce is days from being final. I thought it would be Friday, but still waiting. Probably next week. I am ready for that closure.
H has been spinning even more. The more I let go of him, the more crazy he becomes. My kids have been through too much. He cannot see past his own face.
His choices are beginning to catch up with him. OW#2 has turned out to be a stalker psycho. She has her claws in and he doesn't know what to do. She stops by his place of work to visit (wives and kids do this often) and brings "goodies" to all the men there. H told me that 95% of the time, she doesn't even call. He told me he would tell her to stop. I told him it was his life and decisions were his b/c it didn't affect me personally.
On a much more important note, my 18 year old nephew was diagnosed w/cancer two weeks ago. He is a senior in high school. The cancer spread to his kidneys. He is going through chemo right now. The cancer is responding and he is slowly healing. Please pray for him. This has been another hard time for my kids. In the past 1 1/2 years, they lost my dad to cancer, their parents are divorcing and their cousin is fighting cancer.
I am trying to catch up on everyone. I hope everyone is hanging in there. I will continue checking in and encouraging my new friends!
bambam
Me-BS 38 X-WS 36 Separated 11/15/2006 Filed for D 8/1/2007 Divorce Final 12/21/2007 S13, S13 (twins), D9 Married 13 Yrs Together 20 Yrs
So glad to hear to see your post. Sounds like you have been busy! Congrats on the new house!
Just wanted to let you know how sorry I am about your nephew. Geez, that is the stuff that really gets to me. When kids get sick, it breaks my heart. And boy, what a contrast to the behavior of the MLCers. It makes it so much less tolerable to deal with..
My uncle is struggling with cancer right now as I went to see him yesterday. And, XH is on the phone with me today saying he wants me to show him more "respect". I almost hung up on him.
Anyway, your kids have been through so much and you are all in my prayers. I have kids almost the same age (S12 and D10)and there isn't a moment that goes by when I don't worry about them, too.
You sound like you are doing a great job with them so just know how lucky they are to have you..
Bam............;I am SO SORRY about your nephew !!!!!!!!!! OMG !!! This world can be such a cruel place ! I hope he recovers FULLY, my thoughts and prayers are with you !!!
I have thought of you SO OFTEN !! Wondering what life is like for you now ! I am glad that YOU are ok ! I am sorry your H is so mad !!
((((((((((BAM))))))))))))))
Love Cinders xxx
"In the depths of my winter, I realized there is within me an invincible summer" Albert Camus
I am sorry to hear of your nephews travails. Seeing where my SIL is after a year of cancer treatments and surgery, all I can say is for your nephew to keep a PMA. My SIL is a fighter. It sure seemed to help her.
Other than that, it sounds like you just keep moving forward and I always enjoy reading where things stand with you (though I don't care about your STBX and his problems). And I am still waiting for my email!!!!!!
Things are good with me other than spraining my ankle last week. It still is bothering me because we fiftysomething people just don't heal as well as we did when we were fortysomething (and in turn 40s don't heal as good as 30s, etc). But it didn't keep me from playing golf.
Anyway, go to see you and glad to hear you are doing well.
MyTurn - Thanks so much for your kind words! I am also sorry to hear about your uncle! I think our kid's ages make them very impressionable and mine have seen and heard WAY too much! Your thoughts mean a lot to me!
CINDERS! - I think of you often too! Thank you for your prayers! Life has been difficult, but we just have to keep walking! I've read about your sitch and I know how strong you are!
NatureGirl - Thanks for your prayers! Sounds like you are pretty strong, too!
IMP - What can I say? A smile immediately slipped up on me when I saw your post! Things are moving forward with me and I am more sure than ever that I am going where I am supposed to be - even though I don't really know where that is right now! And believe me, I don't really care about my STBX's problems either...they just seem to slip into my world from time to time! My kids are what's most important to me and that means dealing w/STBX's insanity at times!
I'm sorry to hear you sprained your ankle! Was it your golf game that got too out of hand???? I've never played golf, but can drive a golf cart like a pro!
I am doing well. Feeling a little stressed b/c I'm in a time crunch w/getting my new house ready! I am in a construction class and last night I pulled wire (don't I sound like I am an old pro??) and set an outlet. The best part - IT WORKED!!! This weekend, I am hanging light fixtures in my new house! Next week I'm going to learn how to pour concrete than I will be pouring a sidewalk at my new house! It's kind of exciting! I decided to wait on my Master's Degree until next fall. I figured this class would save me a lot of $$ to go towards that tuition!
About that email...........I lost your address? Jeanette sent it to me and I can't seem to find it. I will get it from her again! I'd love to join you on MSN, too. I just got a new computer and am waiting to set it up at the new house. It should be much faster!
Thanks for all of your support everyone! I am coming up on 1 year since H left. So much has happened and sometimes I need to stop and step back. Life really is good.
Me-BS 38 X-WS 36 Separated 11/15/2006 Filed for D 8/1/2007 Divorce Final 12/21/2007 S13, S13 (twins), D9 Married 13 Yrs Together 20 Yrs
And am praying for your nephew. Sending him strength.
TOH
M41 H42 D17 Adopted N14 M22 T24 "Bomb" 4/07 Sep 8/07 Admitted OW 11/07(only to me) OW back 12/4/07 PA on off thru 7/08 says done w/OW but not coming home 8/08 D final 7/09 Moving on and up!!
