I talk to Woody63 on a regular basis, and he is doing great.
Thanks for your news. Actually, I never posted to Woody63, but was following his sitch.
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He met a wonderful woman this spring, and is in a serious relationship with her. His ex-wife has finally moved out of the fog a little bit. I think his moving on, and completely giving up on her is what finally caused her to take a serious look at her life.
That is so typical and often seems to be the case!
Actually Woody is getting married in a couple of weeks. I think he is very happy. He didn't just "jump" into this relationship, he kissed a few frogs first, and even had a rebound with his ex-wife once after the divorce. He spoke with the ex-wife a few weeks ago, and she told him that if he had "just backed off," and let her work through her fog, the results would have been different. She just broke things off with the OM a month or so ago, that would have been just about the 2 year anniversary of the bomb. Woody thinks his engagement had a lot to do with her "revelations."
He may not be the success story where the husband and wife get back together, but he is the success story that ends with getting a life, and finding happiness again. He gives me hope.
Actually Woody is getting married in a couple of weeks.
I am amazed that he is getting married again, after all the pain he went through with his ex-wife! But of course, I wish him all the best and happiness.
I tell you one thing: I wouldn't do that so quickly. I am burnt and I certainly would not get married a second time. However, I would TRY to live with someone first, without giving up my place. Only then I could be sure that it would work out to permanently live with someone. But I really think I would not get married a second time. You can still be a couple without "that piece of paper"!
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She just broke things off with the OM a month or so ago, that would have been just about the 2 year anniversary of the bomb. Woody thinks his engagement had a lot to do with her "revelations."
I know what you mean Truelove. I'm not sure I will be able to marry again after what I went through. I guess I'm kind of jaded in thinking that if marriage vows can be broken so easily, what's the point in taking them? But on the other hand, I did like being married, and maybe I will change my mind if I meet the right person. I don't want to take my baggage from what happened with my ex-husband into a new relationship. I can't expect the worst from everyone, just because I've seen the worst in someone.
Whether or not you have that "piece of paper," you can still get your heart broken, and ultimately that would be my biggest fear.
As far as Woody goes, I think he is making the right decision. I know it seems quick, but due to certain circumstances, getting married right now makes sense for him.
Whether or not you have that "piece of paper," you can still get your heart broken, and ultimately that would be my biggest fear.
That's true, lael, and that would also be MY biggest fear. But on the other hand not only are you emotionally very down, but on top of it you have to deal with yet another divorce. If you don't have "the piece of paper", you can more or less just pack your bags and leave.
On another note: has anybody heard from happy_again (ex finally_free)?
