As it currently stands, and from what I know about the XW right now, she has drama. But after spending 1/2 my life with her, I am willing to deal with that since I already know what those issues are. But as I have said, there needs to be some plan in place for me to try again. Not going into it blindly.
I am not comparing women I have dated with my XW either. As I was telling a friend the other day, we fit so well……it was the ideal match in my opinion. Our individual strengths were the others weaknesses. Imago theory to a tea. And for years, we worked well together. My friend has known both of us for years and still can believe our situation.
***Update*** She actually had lunch with her the other day with another person. My name came up and XW had some very nice things to say. My friend said something and she said that the XW completely lost all emotion…..like a sheet got pulled up over her face. My name came up a couple times and the response was similar. My friend didn't know how to take it….didn't think it was bad but very very creepy (term she used). Not sure what the reaction means. Almost like she was remembering the good times and good things about me but then remembered she must be angry at me and pushed those feelings away. Grasping at straws but my only guess.
CIAZ M 7/97 S 5/05 D 8/06 Both 33 years old No kids
I have read your entire thread here and I was wondering if you have any updates. I noticed your last post was nearly three months ago.
No news is good news?
It's somewhat like reading a novel only to find the last chapter is missing. Even though I know these sorts of "novels" that we call our lives are never really "completed".
I really hope things are working out between you and your XW.
Dash
Me 43: Her 34 M 08/22/2005 Son born 12/31/2006 Suspicion of EA 10/10/2008 EA confirmed 10/11/2008 WAW 10/13/2008
Thanks for the note. Sorry that it has taken me a while to get back....life has been crazy! If not the job, it is something else.
Well, not much to report from me. I have not spoken with XW since Easter. No reason for me to call and I guess she doesn't either. Have come to grips with everything now. Although I don't agree, it is what it is. The biggest thing for me, was finaly realizing that the person that she is today is not the person that I married. That is a big difference. Sometimes it is hard to see that. Do I have feelings for her....sure. Always will but moving on at the same time.
I have met some wonderful women in the meantime....but nothing to really write about. Two are currently in relationship (one of them married) but I won't go there.
Anyway....as a "final chapter"...CIA closes the door behind him as he walks down the road into the sunset....awaiting what adventures my find him. Never forgetting where he came from.
Wishing you all the best!
CIAZ M 7/97 S 5/05 D 8/06 Both 33 years old No kids
