OK... yesterday she did ask me to help her with a new car seat she bought for our youngest D. Otherwise, very cold and uninterested. At one point, she was working on some work stuff and I asked if there was anything I could help with, and she said "You could fix what you broke" I asked her to repeat and she said nevermind.
I decided it was time to go out. Went over to a friends house for a few hours, came home, told her goodnight and went to bed.
I noticed yesterday that she hadn't worn her ring(s) all day. This morning, her ring(s) are still sitting on the sink.
I got dressed up in my work clothes (khaki's, button down shirt),shaved and pretty much made myself look good.
Took the D's in to school and she would hardly look me in the eye. She's so angry at me right now.
I feel like I need to do something... like I should get her a card or some flowers or something.
Any thoughts?
Also, FIL called last night to see how things were going. W has yelled at me for telling MIL things that W neglected to say, so I told him I couldn't talk about it.. that he'd have to talk to her. He did say that I needed to fight for her and that was his only advice to me. I told him I was and will.
Went to speak with my L today. As I was pulling out of the driveway, I noticed the mail had come. In the mail was the temporary proposal from W's L. We had talked about it last night (they just drew it up yesterday) and she said it was basically what we had talked about.. I don't even need to see my L and just agree and sign.
Well... this is going to get ugly, because my L says that they are asking for things "temporarily" that no judge would allow.
I know when she finds out that we are contesting the conditions she will be hopping mad. That may be the coffin nail, but I can't let her deprive the D's while they are here as well.
Blame it on your lawyer. Whatever you do, do not say that I don't agree with x,y, or z - say that your lawyer thinks x, y, or z and that he/she says it is customary in these situations that... You should also prepare her for that before she hears it from her or your lawyer.
Yeah... that's what I'm afraid of. Oh well... I will blame it on my lawyer!!
This is actually becoming comical. I have an office in the basement. She came home and I went upstairs to get some water and ask her how her day was etc. She was on the phone and when she got off she was telling me about an appt tomorrow and logistics etc. I then asked how her day was to which she responded: "Why are you talking to me.. .I'm mad as heck at you"
I replied "OK.. .I will leave you alone" She replied "Good"
As I was heading downstairs, she started to ask a question that she forgot.. then asked how my day was.. I said it was good and she had this crap eating grin on her face like she wanted to laugh.
Well... we talked for a few more minutes... good conversation, asked about her day and some particular problem children at school. She seemed to enjoy telling me about one of the kids and how she's trying to get him under control.
We then talked about our D's picture day tomorrow.
Turns out the grabbing of the rings was so she could put them up in her jewelry box.
She's going to get adjusted and headed off to school which doesn't start for 2 hours.
She texted me asking me to give the girls a hug and kiss and tell them she loved them. I responded OK and reminded her that D was supposed to bring in snacks for her class and asked if she had any ideas. She called later to tell me she'd be running late from class but she could stop and pick something up. We talked about the girls etc and she said again how she didn't plan on being too late.. "Not that you need to know". I took it in stride and told her to be careful coming home to which she responded "Whatever.. OK" She called me on the way home and I had gone upstairs to read. It was a much more pleasant conversation, but I asked her if she wanted me to come down when she got home. She said she had to make lunches and then go to bed. I told her I made lunches (something I never do.. 180). She was shocked and asked why I did that. I told her I realized that I never made lunches and I knew she'd be home late.
This is where she responded with: "I'm not in the mood to.... I don't know where our relationship is going to end. I don't have much hope for it right now.. I'm so angry with you and probably will be for a while."
I told her I understood and let it go. I feel like she's going to use this as an excuse to distance from me.
At this point, I'm tired of the game. I just need to let her go for a while and focus on me and the girls.
This is where I get into trouble. I don't want to ignore her, but I want to GAL and detach.
Nugget, Looks like you've taken a couple days off from posting here, just like me. I guess answers just aren't there for us right now. For a while I posted a few times daily trying to find wisdom, answers, questions etc.
I saw my W this morning for a few minutes, when she was getting in her car I told her she looked really nice, and she gave me a really warm, flirty smile, it made me feel really good, I think I just caught her off guard?
My son will now be with my W for the next week, except for my sons football game tomorrow, I am the head coach and my W is the team mom. I would love to ask her out or have a family night, but I am pretty sure I'll be rejected. She had told me before she left that if anything changes for her she will let me know, so I guess I'll play the waiting game.
I must admit that I am very lonely without her. I am keeping busy with being a good father, domestic chores, work, working out, sports and coaching, yet in the evenings during the week, sitting watching TV alone, I find myself alone, feeling sorry for myself.
Hope things are going good for you, drop a line, thanks.
"We're here for a good time, not a long time" ________________________________________
M:48 W: 43 S;20, S;10 Married: 14 Years / Together 17 Years Bomb Dropped: 2/4/07 Separated: 6/29/07 D to be filed by my W soon.
