Good luck, GD. Just remember to keep it short. You'll be fine.
One of our dance instructors did a Lindy swing demo. Hokey smokes, Batman. You did 12 hours or so of that over a weekend? No wonder your legs hurt. I'm a bit too heavy footed for that. The waltz is more my thing
BD
My latest
Me: 36 W: 35 2 D: 9 and 5 T: 16 years M: 12 10/4/06: Bomb 10/5/06: Ended A 4/22/07: ILYBNILWY
Thanks guys -- your support is so awesome and appreciated!
Nomo,
I'm definitely trying to figure out just how to weave the "dancing" comment into the end. I still think it's a great idea and am going to use it.
Heim,
Yeah, Lindy can sure be a workout as you have apparently seen! You can do it too though, and believe me -- I need to take breaks in between songs often enough! Glad you're enjoying your dance lessons -- how are they going? Does W know and has she said anything about them?
Sunny, L, and Kat -- thanks for the hugs and support! You ladies rock!
Everyone,
How do you think I should proceed in regard to the talk if I call and ask W to stop by the house for a few minutes to talk and she says, "No," or "I can't,"? Should I just go ahead and put it out there while we're still on the phone, or should I ask if she can meet with me tomorrow sometime (which of course would allow her time to think about what I might want to talk about)?
Thanks for the help!
GD
Oh, and I just found out that what scheduled day in court was wrong, and it's not actually until Monday the 20th. Also, I found out that if W and I have agreed to everything in our mediation, there is no reason to actually go to court and we can just sign off on the paperwork without seeing each other (W and I, that is). I'm going to meet with my atty on Wednesday to talk at length about all of this.
Could you ask her to meet for a cup of coffee or something rather than asking her to go to your place? Not sure, but maybe "neutral ground" might get her to meet face to face with you.
Another alternative is to just be there when she picks up your kids. Rather than ambushing her, tell her that you're going to be there and want to ask her a few things. Where are they? If your parents are watching them, you can ask them to be scarce for a little while.
I was going to suggest asking her to lunch, but that's probably too much.
Finally, could you meet her at work? After she gets off?
Just throwing these out because I think face to face is better over the phone. 10 to 1 as soon as you ask your W to talk, I've got a feeling she's going to have a pretty good guess as to what you want to talk about.
Dance lessons are going well. Another private lesson on Friday. 3 more after that, so about 7 more weeks. Then off to rugby (won't able to really afford the continue if my W and I separate). Got invited to try the foxtrot bronze class last Friday, but I was whipped and starving so bowed out, but that was nice for the PMA. Gotta figure out how to turn/travel a bit better rather than be stuck in that damn box
Just a few thoughts, no real solid opinons for you.
BD
My latest
Me: 36 W: 35 2 D: 9 and 5 T: 16 years M: 12 10/4/06: Bomb 10/5/06: Ended A 4/22/07: ILYBNILWY
The only face to face encounter with her between now and Monday is Sunday evening, and I'm concerned that this is way to close to the court date (i.e. the night before). What do you think?
Heim,
The kids are at daycare, and I don't live too far away from there and I believe my house without the kids, other adults, etc, being there would be a better medium. I like the idea for coffee, but she is now an insulin-dependent diabetic and can't really drink the coffee drinks anymore. Work isn't a good idea either because her boyfriend works there too, and word would likely get around fast (not something I want him to know, I guess, as I feel it may hurt my chances). Also, I don't think W would respond well at her workplace simply because of the BF factor and maybe even pride (don't know though).
I agree that face to face is the ideal, but am wondering if giving her too much time to consider the talk prior to meeting face to face (i.e. if I have to ask her to meet tomorrow or such because she can't today) is a bad idea, and that maybe it would be better to do the talk over the phone at that point. I don't want to give her too much time to think about it and then call back and say she doesn't want to meet, or something like that.
