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I thought I would post here as well as in surviving....

My W left for good on Saturday. Today is the first time I would have to go to her new place to pick up my kid, and take her home where she lives - every day. W wants to be separated so she can "get away from the stress" she says...however, this is harder than I thought, and today she tries to make nice by joking around that I should get a "girlfriend" so I wouldn't be lonely at home. She thought it was funny, but that sent me into an angry downspin and now I am depressed......

How cold can she get???? After that little comment of hers I have decided to change the locks on the house, but I am still depressed over this whole thing she is doing.

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I'm sorry Sol.


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today she tries to make nice by joking around that I should get a "girlfriend" so I wouldn't be lonely at home.


Her insecurities are getting to her. She said this to see how you would respond.

Try not to let it get you down. Think good thoughts!!!!











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Instead of going to the W's place, have her meet you somewhere.



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Well, I wasn't sure I would be able to go through with this "plan" of hers....picking up my daughter at her place....I know she is still trying to see if I still care for her. Of course I do, and I want this nightmare to end. But she made a choice with having an affair, now she is running again by moving out. All of my friends are saying that I need to end it with her and move on, and that I am in the longest denial they have seen anyone be in. But my W should be the one to file if she wants out------why doesn't she? She's strong enough, she has the balls to laugh at the immigration process and not worry about getting caught...

It's hard still, I married her, and I realize I still love her. They all say for me to let her go. Maybe that's a wise choice, even if I am the one to file.


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Sol- My friends and family are telling me the same thing. Only u know when the right time will be. Go with your heart. No one knows your wife better then u do. At least this is what I keep telling myself ;\) Only God really knows what we should do.

Keep the faith everyone \:\)

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I just learned that my daughter was not at my W's place the whole time. She was at a friends of hers......so I wonder why my W wanted to be alone at her place-----like it's any of my business now, right? But I am still married, and I will NOT cheat on her while still being married to my W. She, on the other hand, knows better than to try and cheat again.....unless she wants to lose custody in a court battle.

My W said that she is picking up our daughter from the friend's house and dropping her off at my house. She still has the key to get in, but I am changing the locks now. My W cannot come and go as she pleases while she is living in her own place, and she's just trying to be in control of the sitch. I am paying all the bills on my own now, just like she's paying her new rent.

Tomorrow we will go through this scenario again. But she will soon discover that she cannot get in like she wants to. And I talked to SS and told him he CANNOT give my W his copy of the house key so she can go and get a copy herself. If I learn about that, SS house privileges are going away and he too will need to wait on me to be let in.

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Today was a twist....my W asked if it would be OK for her to stay the day at the house with my daughter instead of going back to her trailer. Her excuse is that she doesn't have cable TV hooked up, but now that her lights are on, she said she would be living there.

When she came over this morning she looked tired as usual, but she had this pale stare like she was depressed. I didn't mention anything to her and just said "hi" and "bye".

Guess her choice of running away is starting to sink in and get to her? I told her because of the lack of cable at her place that she could stay. At least she asked. Another friend of mine is telling me that my W is already having second thoughts, and even said that she probably made a mistake of buying that depreciating piece of junk and she signed a 1 year lease.


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Make sure to just give her some space...even if it's in your space. She has as much on her mind as you do and needs the room to figure it out. Being in your place will keep her curious, even if it's for the moment. And that's a baby step...


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SOL,
Cable T.V. is not the end of the world brother. Sorry I could not post last night but my CABLE WAS TURNED OFF....Get it. I did not beg to stay at my STBXW's house because I did not have cable. I found other things to do with the kids.

GET IT.

If she wants to live the life of having her own place that is fine let her. Be strong and firm. But not having cable seems like a sad excuse to me anyways.....Just my 2 cents.


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