Sure the romantic love at the beginning of a relationship is strong but that fades.
What I don't understand is why they can't see this??? I'll be honest, I have had my crushes before, but I was committed to this R and our M and I conciously thought about the pros and cons to the sitch and realized there are definitely no pros to leaving my family!!!
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As for my W being a good mother yes she is always has been. Though over the last 6 months she has had no problems leaving our kids with me and going to work or take time for herself. I think my W is being more of a friend to our girls rightnow then their mother. This obviously concerns me since they still need discipline and structure in their lives, but I she is not being a negligent parent.
This is a real tough one! On one hand, I would say that if she is a good mother, then the girls can be with her. You will still have an impact on your girls in providing them the structure they need when you see them. The way I see it, the more fighting we do, the more they pull away, but I am clearly no expert because look at where I am at now. On the other hand, I understand that she is leaving you and you may feel like you are losing out because of her decision. Well, I guess we all are losing out in some way or another because of our WAS. That leaves you with YOU, to take care of you and be the best dad you can be.
