One Foot in Front of the Other

[believing_isaiah43]

All good things I hear. Good for you! Still doing MC? Don't let that slide, friend.

[whapu]

Aud,
Slipping in to say it looks as though good things are coming your way and you certainly deserve it! You are strolling and rolling right along...just some scattered words of much needed praise...peace

[not_giving_up]

Just checking in on you Aud...I have away from the boards for a while and wanted to see how you are doing. It seems that you are fairing pretty well. Keep your head up!

[cat03]

she's having too much fun, that's why she is MIA

[Phoenix_spark]

Just checking in to hear the latest.

[Aud31]

Hello all--thanks for checking in, it means alot to me that y'all care.

I decided to go visit some friends over the weekend...I flew with D1 and H handled D5 and S3 here at home. The trip was nice, and I'm in catch-up mode. My internet connection was down all day yesterday again. Grrr.

H and I are doing great. He did a superb job with the kids. I came home to a clean house and a pile of clean laundry. He told me he missed me and we've had some nice conversations and time together.

I am still following my gut here. There are unresolved issues in my head regarding work contact with OW1 and OW2's babies. They nag at me, and I am trying to find the best way to address them, but don't want to tear down the trust-building process either. I know there's a fine line to walk. Overall, I'm feeling grateful and positive.

[Aud31]

I'm feeling a little anxious today, dealing with some worries over H's truthfulness as described in my last post. I'm wanting to believe this is for real, because it's all so wonderful. But scared a little too that he might be putting on a powerful act and keeping one or both OW in the wings.

I think I'm doing a fab job of keeping the worry to myself for now--just don't want to be naive either. You know?

[cat03]

I know hon, you've just started piecing, and the feelings you have don't go away for at least 7mths. It's tough, I know, fight your fear hon.

[Aud31]

Thanks Cat--I appreciate your validation. I am fighting the fear.

I talked with H about some of my concerns...asked a few questions, listened to the usual plausible explanations and then just let him know that though I have worries, I'm letting his actions carry more weight than the fears. Then we dropped it and went on with our evening out.

I'm choosing to focus more on the good things in the present and let the shadows from the past melt away.

[BeingMe]

Hi Aud! A belated welcome to Piecing! Let me tell ya ... piecing is harder than the usual DB'ing! It's where the real work begins, IMHO.

I guess the only advice I can give at this point, because it's still early days, is enjoy the good times, and continue DB'ing when you feel the fear or anxieties.

Here's a quote about fear that I like:

"Fear is a question: What are you afraid of, and why? Just as the seed of health is in illness, because illness contains information, your fears are a treasure house of self-knowledge if you explore them." Marilyn Ferguson

So, once you know why you fear, maybe you'll be able to counter it with courage, and detachment. Don't let fear control you, but you control it, IOW.

Also, from an article in the Liahona: "The Lord has said, “If ye are prepared ye shall not fear”" and,

"...ours is not the option of doubting and fearing. Ours is the opportunity of believing and acting."

I am glad you had the opportunity to visit with your friend. One should always take a break from one another, give each other a time to think, have some space, and the chance to miss our spouses.