LL, this is just spam that everyone gets. I just got one for impotence! Really, don't let your mind wander too much in that direction...
Some time ago I read (somewhere) a story about a man who really dedicated his life to work, but his M suffered as a result. This ended up biting him many years down the line, but he took the initiative (at the threat of his M) to change his hours. Since he did that, not only did his W feel better and his M was stronger, but he felt free from the bonds of his work. My point? Clearly your H's work is a significant problem with your R. Can you seriously talk to him about changing things, or do you think your sitch is still too delicate?
I think this control over one's company is stronger for those who've raised themselves up by their bootstraps and have become successful on their own after lots of hard work. To me, given your previous posts, sounds like it might fit the profile of your H???
Quote: I think this control over one's company is stronger for those who've raised themselves up by their bootstraps and have become successful on their own after lots of hard work.
yes, h dropped out of college at the end of his sophmore year (to be an accountant no less, they work crazy hours too!) without the support or encouragement of his family, actually they were dead against it. so with no support or encouragement from his family, he dropped out of school and set out to start his own business (landscaping) I was there from the begining!! I worked for him, yes in the trenches getting dirty and all, my dad helped sign for a truck when no one else would, my neighbor let him borrow equiptment til he could by his own, my neighbor gave him customers, my friends dad gave him customers, my dad got him hooked up with a mens club and got him customers through that.. eventually his business grew to a point where he has two shops full of all kinds of equiptment, 4 trucks, 8+ employees and so many customers that he has to contract some of the work out!!
all this he has done on his own, yeah you'll note that I was there along the way helping him with all kinds of stuff, hell before all the employees came along I use to go out during the snow storms and shovel or snowblow the walkways for him (did it to be with him and cause i liked it and he payed good) but I think it became embarrising for him to let his woman do grunt work with the guys around.
he knows that work is an issue for me and therefore for us..I was just reaching a point that I was comfortable with his working so much and then whammo ow!! I am dealing, I know being married to a business owner has it's drawbacks as well as it's rewards, just waiting for more of the actually reward. the money is nice but I would like more time with the boss
Quote: he knows that work is an issue for me and therefore for us..I was just reaching a point that I was comfortable with his working so much and then whammo ow!! I am dealing, I know being married to a business owner has it's drawbacks as well as it's rewards, just waiting for more of the actually reward. the money is nice but I would like more time with the boss
I understand, LL. I'm just afraid that five or ten years down the line you'll become a WAW because your H spent too much time at work. Is this not a rather large red flag?
Quote: I'm just afraid that five or ten years down the line you'll become a WAW because your H spent too much time at work. Is this not a rather large red flag?
huge red flag!! but something that hopefully we are working toward fixing. h is understanding that alot of the complaining and nagging I did was due to his not being around and h now realizing that some of his not being around was due to my nagging. yes in the begining he HAD to be working, he was the only employee, but as time went on he had a bit more freedom, but by then he was spent on me and therefore saught the companionship of ow (he would say it just happend, she was after all a customer he didn't have to seek to far)
h realizes the danger of overworking I realize the danger of nagging him about work.
the winter is the winter, can't really schedule when it will snow now can we??
but the summers should show some of what h has learned from this experience (hey after all ow is married to a working man as well don't think h wants me to be like ow now does he?? NOPE!!) I have heard h mention scheduling himself a day off midweek or even being able to come home early. actually when we first moved in to the new house h did come home early every day...then I started to "pressure" for the second baby and all went to hell!! that is also about the time h started to hang with ow.
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is this what the world has come too??? are people really this sick and twisted?? imagine if my poor grandmother had e-mail and got stuff like this. I am soooooo perturbed!!
LL - Even though it is the middle of winter, it appears that something like this should be handled soon before Spring hits. Get H to provide a couple of ideas as a starting point for some serious talking and work from there. Great opportunity for each of you to work on those active listening skills so that you minimize any misunderstandings. Great opportunity for a win-win all the way around.
Hi LL, Thanks for dropping by and giving my thread a bump ^ and the kind words. I've been dropping by yours every now and again to check in, and how I wish could offer words that would ease your struggle, but little from my personal toil seems to apply to yours.
...but if nothing else, I can surely send you some smiles your way ...
Until you figure out the answers to the big questions you're seeking, job, school, life in general, etc..., help sooth your soul by taking little timeouts for yourself too. I can picture you being the one saying,
"Calgon take me away..."
Do your kids take a nap at the same time of day? Next time the winter blues set in, set up some candles and potpourri, lather up those suds in the tub, then put the kiddies down and give yourself the full attention you deserve.
Who knows ... you just might have a "light bulb" moment. Alot of people do their best thinking the bathroom ... some on the "throne", others in the shower or tub ... well, you get the gist?
Make sure you keep doing those little things you enjoy doing for yourself. (like those flowers you sent yourself. I think that was very ). If you think you're a little to thin and want to gain those ten punds, how 'bout a little fun doingit ... a hot fudge sunday or rocky road icecream, strawberry shortcake with lots of whipcream ... get the picture?
I sure do hope your weekend trip exceeds all your expectations. You certainly deserve it.
Hey, how ya doing? Hope you and h get to go on trip..but if he doesn't then go and enjoy some much needed time alone..and have fun too.. The email stuff..I thought it was something I had done..I guess i did type in "sex" once just to see what it brought up(sorry, it just came out that way!!!!) Now I get crap all the time..I think my h told me there is some kind of block you can request to stop it, but I have not..and I never open any of it..maybe I should just to see what it is..I did have my freind buy a playgirl magazine once cause I had never seen one(I know I lead a sheltered life), anyways it was sick...there is no normal male that looks like they do.
Enough about sex...cabin fever is really setting in..LL, I think I can relate to your h never being home, except mine has a 9-5 job..but the past few years he has a part time job at our church and all the other things he does..so he has not been home much..but now I see that he has not wanted to be here..give him time to get it all together..he is home..that is a giant step..let the rest fall into place at whatever pace it needs to. You know the pushing thing won't work.Have a great week end Sue
Really, don't let your mind wander too much in that direction...
I've been dropping by yours every now and again to check in, and how I wish could offer words that would ease your struggle, but little from my personal toil seems to apply to yours. 
). If you think you're a little to thin and want to gain those ten punds, how 'bout a little fun doingit ... a hot fudge sunday or rocky road icecream, strawberry shortcake with lots of whipcream ... get the picture?