Your question might be better phrased "Who to ask for a BJ?"
If you stopped offering her LJ (lick job) would she:
a) complain that you are an vengative donkeyhole? b) not notice c) be relieved that she finally can rest from that crotch-sniffing dog of a husband d) non of the above e) all of the above f) realize that maybe you need some attention, too
well I've heard this one...unfortunatley never from my h (he's turned down so many bj's it's sad)
hey honey, I've got a job for you...
yeah what's that?
planting tu lips...
where?
right here!!
ok ok ok I know that was pathetic...
I think asking for a bj depends on what's going on at the time...if you're simply asking out of the air that may be difficult...but if things are already going on it should be pretty easy...just ask. hmmm maybe that's why my h isn't always receptive? I'd just offer out of no where.
anyway Cemar the real reason I stopped by is that I just watched a chick flick and thought of you (no not that I think you're a fem or anything) and some of the other men on this site. The title was "Dinner with Friends", it was about two couples that were close friends and one couple was getting a d, the man had an a and was leaving. He (the leaving h) talked about wanting to be touched, shown affection etc. Just thought that for the h's who's w's wont read the book watching this movie together (but not saying anything about it unless she brings it up) may help to get the message across.
Cute answer. If I ever really consider having an affair, I'll remember that one. How to ask for a BJ? Hm... Cute underwear with a bow or a zipper and a sign that says "open me first". Personally my H soft member is enough to make me consider "inviting" him out to play. The other ? about what do we have against it. Top ten reasons to dislike giving BJ's: 10. Who said turn about is fair play? Maybe I'd rather you didn't "please" me. 9. Don't you think I would get tired after two hours? 8. Did you wash? 7. Why did you wait for me to put on the lipstick so you can wipe it out? 6. The only thing you said all day was blow me. 5. Look, boy I got a cold and I can't breathe and suck at the same time. 4. You want me swallow something slimy. Ugh! 3. You want me to suck harder. What am I a vacuum cleaner? 2. Are you aware that you are 9 inches long trying to fit into a 5 inch space? And the number one reason for not wanting to give a BJ... did you ever give me the time and directions I need to make it good for me and you?
Interesting topic. At least, interesting in a theoretical way, since this is something W will not even consider, and always has been. There was the odd time in the VERY early years (i.e. about 23 years ago or so) when she would make an attempt, but she always had to wash it first (with soap!). Not that I minded...
Anyway, it's really never been a big issue for me - it's not something I could call a "deal-breaker". However, giving her oral sex has always been one of my MOST favorite things! However, about 8 years ago or so, she just slammed the door on that, too. Basically said, "It's not something I want", thereby robbing me of the most enjoyable aspect of LM, which even then was dwindling down to practically nothing, and making variability virtually impossible. To quote Dilbert: "Gaaaa!"
I didn't like getting until I meet this H. He is wonderful. Too bad he is no longer interested, I was really starting to look forward to it. I've met women like your wife that say their mouth is for eating food but I never got over putting things in my mouth. I didn't like oral sex at first because it takes a very light touch for me, think feathers, and my ex's felt I complained too much about the amount of pressure so I'd just shut-up and let them do their thing while I plotted my "revenge".
I tried to get my wife to give me a bj a couple of times when we were dating, and she just said not now. I brought up the subject two years ago. I wrote her a letter letting her know how much I loved her, how much she turned me on. Then I said I would real like if she would give me some oral, and that I didn't know what her objections were. If she could tell me we might be able to work around it. If whe wanted to try, we could start with her licking it for just a minute and then I would give her oral for as long as she wants, to climax. Then in a couple weeks or with in a month she could try licking for two minutes and then I would do her to climax. Well her reaction was telling me she didn't realize she was such a bad wife! So I droped the subject for almost a year. I asked her again, she just said that giving oral wasn't her favorite thing (ahh, so she must have done it before being with me) and that she might do it "someday". Well we have been together for 10 years and married for 8 and someday still hasn't arrived.
I am interested it other's opinions on this subject.
Sorry, but for most of us here, getting blown is the very least of our worries...
Seriously, for me, it was never really a big deal. If W would ML with me in every other way but that, I would be on cloud nine! Even if we could ML more than 10 times a year, I'd be at least on cloud 7. The biggest thing for ME, is giving HER oral - THAT is my favorite-of-favoritest things! That turns me on like nothing else. Alas, she cut me off even THAT some 8 years ago now. GAWD, I miss it...
BJ's are the BEST sex possible for me. They are 10's regular sex is no better then a 5 on this scale. It is the ultimate act of INTIMACY. This is the defining act between a LD woman and a HD woman. Most HD women will do this, most LD women have no interest in it. TO put it bluntly, if I were on the dating market, I would not even give the time of day to a women that dislikes giving BJ's. Sex is all about intimacy, and what is more intimate then having her lips around the most important part of my body. True "Lovers" love every square inch of your bodies. I want a women that loves my penis, rather then treat it like it is a rabid dog!
I didn't like oral sex at first because it takes a very light touch for me, think feathers, and my ex's felt I complained too much about the amount of pressure so I'd just shut-up and let them do their thing while I plotted my "revenge". 
I wasn't even able to get a kiss, much less anything else....