well, the asking him to the comedy show is out. I heard from some people at work that it's all about the stupid things guys do in relationships (sorry guys!) so I don't think he would want to sit have have an evening of male bashing, and I would feel uncomfortable. Its a comedy show that is good for girls night out. but on Sunday when I dropped daughter off, he asked me to stay for dinner and I felt so sick that day, but said yes to the oppotunity. He looked so cute cooking dinner and it was the worse thing I have ever tasted--the dogs were happy while daughter and I fed them under the table. Hey, he tried. I would like to initate some "friskey" stuff but afraid I will get turned down and then we would fight again and I would lose what I ready have, which I am grateful for
I admire your strength of character to come back and keep coming back. Don't give up. He seems to be warming up to you! Be strong and follow your heart here. After all, what would you think 5 years down the road if you had not tried at all? I'm sure you would regret it! Don't give up.
If you try something frisky, don't go to far, maybe a touch on the arm, or maybe when you leave after dinner say thank you and then give him a nice warm hug. If he likes it you will know. If he doesn't then, don't push. You have a lot to prove to him, not him to you.
elwood, I know I have alot to prove to him, but does this mean that I would have to start everything. When he is ready, shouldn't he let me know. I have touched his arm a few times, stood really close to him, he has never told me to stop touching him or don't get too close to me, but with my daughter around, I would feel weird kissing him goodbye or even giving him a goodbye hug. since the comedy show is out, I will have to look around for something else to invite him too.
well, what do do---next holiday Valentines Day.I get him a general card, but this year I was thinking of writing in the card something like "maybe someone just the two of us can go the the movies" how does that sound??
sounds good to me, just be ready if he does not respond to it. He may not say anything right away, but may later suggest you, him and daughter go. Take what you can get and expect nothing to come from it.
I just want him to know my intentions, that I just don't go places with him and daugther just for your daughter's sake. Maybe it will open up the topic for discussion.
well, the family pet had lyme disease last summer and the ex was always too cheap to bring the pets to the vet so while he was in Poland, I brought the dog to find that he had the disease. Well, he got really sick this past weekend, I took him to the vet (thank God for my dad, he paid) and the disease got to his kidneys and liver so he is basically dying. I have to give him injections to flush his system out. Well, the dog doesn't live with me, so I waited to show the ex how to give the injections, but he couldn't. Needles are not his thing. So everyday I will go over to give the injections. The OM called me the other day and I answered the phone. When I hung up, my daughter heard me mumbling to myself and she asked what was wrong, I just made a comment about men being a pain and then I said except for your dad. She rolled her eyes and said oh please mom. I asked her why she does not like it when I compliament her dad, speak well of him or if I come over on Sat morning and he is still in him underwear--she gets mad. I though she would be happy that even if we don't get back together, we get along so well. She told me that she doesn't want to see us other because once and if we ever got remarried, we would just be fighting all over again and she doesn't want to listen to the fighting anymore. I told her how both of us have grown and we have learned from our mistakes. But her response caught me off guard.
well, now I find myself waiting by the phone on Sundays for invite over ex's house for dinner. I received another invite. Where is he learning how to cook??? When we were first married, I made my own sauce and pasta and he used to help me. We had spag. dinner sunday. For a sauce, I have no idea what it was, it was like red soup, with meat, green peppers, onion, and a whole bunch of unidentified items. but again me and daughter put on a smile and ate the best we could. So I guess things are doing okay. But other man came over to my place yesterday at 2 a.m., he works third shift and got out early. He was begging me to open the door, I didn't want a scene so I did. I really wanted him to stay, he told me that he is really trying and that some day he wants to marry me. I miss being married. I kicked him out and starting reading my db book again.
