Hi All, I dove into Sandi2s thread on the LBH and wayward wife. I implemented some boundaries finally with my wife and one of these is me taking back our bedroom. She seemed almost happy and willing to do this. I am curious if excitement is a normal or often seen reaction? Any feedback or others experiences would be helpful and welcome!
Thanks for your reply. I guess we will see how it plays out. I just found out she is starting g another relationship after a string of affairs a few months ago. We have been in the same house and I was your typical bend over backwards husband to try and fix it. We had boundaries set and she crossed, I’ve never held to them before and worrying I am backpedaling or pushing her right into his arms. I should mention that she stated she wants to leave the relationship and has no interest in reconciling it. I told her I would not pay for another house when she mentioned leaving, she does not work, so probably have a few months before she gets a job and has enough money to move out. I do love her, but this is not sustainable.
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Post on other people’s thread to give support.
Keep journaling and asking questions - people will come! Most important - POST!
Get out and Get a Life (GAL).
DETACH.
Believe none of what he or she says and half of what he/she does.
Have NO EXPECTATIONS.
Take care of yourself, breathe, eat, sleep, exercise.
Take the parts of this advice that you need and don't worry if I have repeated something that you have already done.
Here are a few links to threads that will help you immensely:
I read it as tying if not in a position to work on the marriage. She just started talking to another man and told me she wants to start having sex again, but not with me. She also has changed the way she dresses and is in recovery for addictions, which she blames on the marriage. Did I read it wrong?
