~J~ I got the job! Closest to home; a 5 min drive! I am over the moon excited! This could not have happened at a better time. Feeling really blessed. There are particulars to workout, but they want me to "join their team!"
D3 & I had a fun morning with our art friends group. Then her & I had lunch & I did some much needed cloth shopping.
Yay for me!! I might be able to juggle a few shifts at my current job too. Not that I want to, but there's some benefits to staying there besides a little cash.
Ready or not...who am I kidding! I AM READY!
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~Never Give Up ~ 2019 Mar BD June BD Dec Aow/xgf 2020 Jan he wants D Feb he flys2 ow Mar returns stuck here C19 Lckdwn Apr he leaves for work until Nov Oct D FINAL 2020 Living MY Happiest Life Ever
Thank you all for your continued support. I reread all the posts to the "Breaking News", and wrote out what stood out for me. What might help me to "Keep Calm & GAL on". These quotes are not verbatum.
Peace: Keep it simple. Let him lead.
Kml: Act As If & Set the Stage (clean house, dress nice, GAL)
Ownit: Friendly Cashier. Keep expectations low. Don’t let him sense your excitement. Mirror his behavior.
DnJ: Be friendly. Don’t ask questions of him. Play it by ear. Remain Calm & detached. Do more of what works and less of what doesn't. Focus on you.
Westo: Remember what he did when he was first home. Treat it as it is.
Setting the stage. The first thing I started to do was clean. That's normal when anyone comes to visit, even the "friendly cashier", and I welcome a good deep cleaning with purpose. I feel better in a tidy house. If it's organized, I feel organized. Something I have control over!
Today I bought a lot of clothes. D3 helped. I'm as frugal as they come but felt I needed & deserved a few new pieces. I felt good, felt pretty, and felt confident. Then I felt guilty for spending money on myself. The guilt vanished once I got the text I had a job!
I don't know how long 00 will be here. Might just be a day. Zero expectations right? He's a friend passing through, has a few errands to do. And I will have a job! Crazy! Yikes! So much for GAL. But really, its what I wanted and need. I'm proud of myself. And will try to GAL in one of my pretty outfits for sure! Grocery shopping. Yup. All Dressed up, super cute just to get groceries? You bet. And I will come home & cook in that cute outfit. Of course, I will be friendly, but not a pouncing puppy. Mirror his behavior. See how it goes, whatever works to keep the mood easy.
Where will our visitor stay? He hasn't said, so I assume he'll return to the sofa. He's not welcome in the bed. I would love that attention, its been forever, but not a good choice. Where ever he stays It's fine by me. I'm not his keeper. But with him here, it's good for D3 to see him at home. I do love seeing them together. But I should GAL the first night he returns if possible. "I made plans so you two can spend time together. See you later...going to a friends." That would be different! I'd rather hang with my family. But I should make plans if I can.
I can't forget what happened when he first returned home. The words sting. What was left of my heart crumbled even more. He's back to do just as he stated. I need to make the best of the free time I might have and focus on doing something for myself. Hopefully I can get a hair appointment soon!
~Never Give Up ~ 2019 Mar BD June BD Dec Aow/xgf 2020 Jan he wants D Feb he flys2 ow Mar returns stuck here C19 Lckdwn Apr he leaves for work until Nov Oct D FINAL 2020 Living MY Happiest Life Ever
Congratulations! I'm so happy for you! Stay positive and don't allow your visitor to bring you down!
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
Just remember that he is coming back again quickly. Could be business, could be worry, who knows. But the point is he is doing it now and he will do it again. So don't treat this as a do or die. Just let things happen as naturally as possible without trying to steer them in any direction. Let him see that you are good with yourself whether he is there or not. They really do start to worry about why you are so happy, dressing better, losing weight, etc.
Great that you are treating yourself. Keep doing it. Having a job should make that easier.
Can - just stopping by to offer my support and congratulate you on your job! That is excellent news, and I'm sure a huge burden lifted. Your H's return for a visit. So many scenarios could play out. Just let it unfold.
Originally Posted by CanBird
But I should GAL the first night he returns if possible. "I made plans so you two can spend time together. See you later...going to a friends." That would be different! I'd rather hang with my family. But I should make plans if I can.
