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LBWs can play this game too. At the time it crushed my world now it feels how sad and guilty WH must have been to even say such things
- I have been telling you for years I was unhappy but you were oblivious (when second baby was 15 weeks old)
- even our happy years were checkered with incidents
- children are an unfortunate complication of this MR
- you ruined my life for 15 years you are going to continue ruining it even after D
- you have a cozy life I am the one having to leave home( while he was walking out on D3 and D8 months)
- I have been forgiving you never forgotten anything you have said in 15 years
- you are surprisingly resilient you will be fine, I am going to be the villain here

Gosh, I am married to a whack job

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Oh the villain one! Reminds me of something WW said over and over:

"It's not fair that people will see YOU as the 'hero' and me as the bad person." ...as she was sleeping w/ OM and I was fighting for the M.


H: 35 W: 33
M: 11 T: 13

4/10/18: I discovered A and confronted ("BD1")
6/23/18: I moved out
8/31/18: MC ends ("BD2")
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Originally Posted by sia
LBWs can play this game too. At the time it crushed my world now it feels how sad and guilty WH must have been to even say such things
- I have been telling you for years I was unhappy but you were oblivious (when second baby was 15 weeks old)
- even our happy years were checkered with incidents
- children are an unfortunate complication of this MR
- you ruined my life for 15 years you are going to continue ruining it even after D
- you have a cozy life I am the one having to leave home( while he was walking out on D3 and D8 months)
- I have been forgiving you never forgotten anything you have said in 15 years
- you are surprisingly resilient you will be fine, I am going to be the villain here

Gosh, I am married to a whack job


Oh yeah? Check this out:

"You, me, OW, and OW's H, all need to sit down and talk about this!" (yes, he actually said that)


“Forgiveness liberates the soul. It removes fear. That is why it is such a powerful weapon.” – Nelson Mandela
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This one's on me and my NGS: "I'm so thankful that you're willing to let me be friends with him." (OM).

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She's with him these days, I suspect, and most certainly not with me.


H: 35 W: 33
M: 11 T: 13

4/10/18: I discovered A and confronted ("BD1")
6/23/18: I moved out
8/31/18: MC ends ("BD2")
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"I don't want to be with anybody right now, i just need time alone to figure out who i am."

"I don't know how it happened."

"I want us to still be friends"

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"Do not arouse or awaken love until it so desires"-Sg.of Sg 2:7

"So oftentimes it happens,that we live our lives in chains, & we never even know we have the key"-Eagles III 1:3
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"I never meant for this to happen."

"Im here, arent I?" (In response to questions about if she's ready to commit to working on MR or to continue counseling or the like)


H53/W51, R-ing 4/'18

"Do not arouse or awaken love until it so desires"-Sg.of Sg 2:7

"So oftentimes it happens,that we live our lives in chains, & we never even know we have the key"-Eagles III 1:3
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"I feel like I'm dying inside."


H53/W51, R-ing 4/'18

"Do not arouse or awaken love until it so desires"-Sg.of Sg 2:7

"So oftentimes it happens,that we live our lives in chains, & we never even know we have the key"-Eagles III 1:3
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"All we did was fight" ( yeah when you were guilty and cheating)

"I tried, but wasn't good enough "

"I never wanted to have children or a house"

"You did nothing wrong"

" i just want to be happy "

" i feel so happy and relieved now"


BH: 36 WW:33
M: 2
Relationship: 6 years. Dday: Aug 2018
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1st mention of D: 30/09, 2nd Mention 17/02/2019
LRT: Oct 2018
WW & AP: EA & PA since June 2018 (Moved country and in with AP Feb 2019)
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"My friendship with OM has evolved into something more. I totally did not see it coming" (one month post D, after denying for 6+ months that something was going on)


M:46 WXW:40
T:20 M:13
D3,D8,D10
BD:11/12/16
D:12/14/16
OM confirmed 01/20/17
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"I would never cheat on you!"

"I probably never loved you"

"The kids will be fine"

"I did this because of you"(see above, said she would never do this)

"You're a terrible dad"

"You never supported me"


Me 47 WW 44
T25 yrs M20
S18 S14 D12
Divorced 3/12/2018
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