Thanks guys, its been a long time since my life was normal. Now being single is starting to seem normal. Today I picked up my kids. Normally I would knock and wait. Today, I knocked and then walked back to the car so I wouldn't have to talk to WW. The kids came running out and off we went. I'm going to continue this for as long as possible. The WW is so wrapped up in this OP that I finally realized I 100% dont matter to her. My d15 found a card she bought for OM stating how sexy he was and "I love u" ..and now he's staying the night when kids are not there. Like an idiot I told her it was wrong and he shouldn't be staying etc. She basically told me that he can stay when ever the kids are not there. She is to the point of not hiding it as much. Does it hurt? Like nothing I've ever felt. But its reality now. Before it was believing the lies. Their whole relationship is built on lies. It's so pathetic to think they think it's okay. I've read that usually affairs rarely last. I know I have finally let go. The cycle may come around and get me, but I plan on muscling through it. I know my value is way higher than I've shown. By not being readily available and being a safety net, she will see I've moved.on. No more NGS. Like someone said..you cant nice them back...very true. I seriously shake my head and whisper WTF to myself when I think of her behaviors. One of my biggest problems is finding stuff to do..all my friends are married and busy. I tried calling a few friends last night and nothing. Hopefully it will all come in time. I'm not sure what W has planned for D papers. She wants me to print my retirement info so she can give it to her L. I know what she wants and she's actually going easy. But I'm getting me a L just in case. Just broke right now. She did tell me she's not in a hurry anymore. Probably because she more in a comfort zone w OM...who knows. I try not to think about it anymore. Well, enough rambling out of me. I will reread the validation sheet. Thanks again for all the support.
ME 47 W 38 M17 T20 Separated 5/20/18 D-bomb 7/9/2018 Nothing Filed 4 kids ages 6, 10, 14, 15
First off it is horrible that your D find that card and I would totally call your W on it. Just that she shouldn't leave stuff laying around for your kids to find. Unfortunately your children now will be more likely to be cheaters.
I can't stress this enough you must move on. Even if the A ends it means nothing. It is going to be a really long time before this all plays out.
Havent heard from you in a while, so just checking in to make sure my friend Lane is doing well. Hopefully your doing well and GAL. Still keeping you and your family in my prayers.
Together:20 years M:3 years Me:40 WW:40 S15 A suspected:5/17 AC:5/18 BD:8/18 WW in full blown R w/ OM Still under same roof
First off it is horrible that your D find that card and I would totally call your W on it. Just that she shouldn't leave stuff laying around for your kids to find. Unfortunately your children now will be more likely to be cheaters.
Yes and no. I know a lot of children of cheaters that are vehemently opposed to it as adults. I have one friend in particular that will not have anything to do with friends that have left their spouses for other people.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
Hello everyone! Some of you might remember me from last summer. I want to fill you all in on my life and how its been. More than anything, I feel I owe it to the people who were here for me. I did not save my marriage. However, my life is going great. I will be back to kinda let you all know what's happened so stay tuned. Lane
ME 47 W 38 M17 T20 Separated 5/20/18 D-bomb 7/9/2018 Nothing Filed 4 kids ages 6, 10, 14, 15
Good to know you are doing well Lane777. I showed up about the time you stopped posting. I am in the same boat. I did not save my M. But overall my life is better, I love myself and my future is bright.
M:16 T:21 H(me) 38 WW: 38 S11 D16 D19 Red Flags of A: March 2018 ILYBNILWY: August 4, 2018 Moved out of MBR: September 24, 2018 BD/Confirmation of A: October 31, 2018 D Filed: March 27, 2019
