To anyone here who was active 2-3 years ago, remember Pink? She wrote eloquently about her "stupid ex husband" (SXH) who had an affair. Her posts were always thoughtful and lengthy as she showed us her strength and determination - and vulnerability. She worked this program, and she gave many of us the strength and wisdom to carry on. We were all rooting for her. Sometimes she gave up hope, sometimes she came back more determined to reconcile with her SXH.
We met in early 2016 in a group working through relationship and marriage break-ups. One evening I heard her say, "Believe half of what you see and none of what you hear." Wait, I heard that all the time on this forum! I looked at her and said, um... I'm NYGal. She said I'm Pink! And we became friends who could support each other not only on here, but in person as well.
Anyhow, today my partner (yup, the same one who had an A and broke my heart) and I are going to Pink and SXH's wedding. They made it. We made it. You can too. Keep fighting. Listen to the DB coaches. Don't give up hope. GAL. Validate. Be strong. Don't give in. Be the person they'd be a fool to leave. It works if you work it!
Here's to Pink and to all of you who made it. And here's to all of you still struggling and hoping. Either you'll find renewed love in your R, or you'll find happiness without that person. Don't give up. You'll always have you.
11/4/15 W revealed EA/2 months later became PA with co-worker Reconciling since late April 2016 Don't give up until it's time, then move on Be patient, strong and kind but never a doormat
Thank you. What a wonderful story of inspiration and determination. I am particularly vulnerable right now and it brought me to tears. It tells me to never give up.
I cried reading this, have been feeling like it is the end of the road and somehow this gave me hope and I broke down. I know, I have no control on emotions some days. Thanks for sharing NYGal, wish you and Pink loads of happiness in each of your lives. - arshi
M 53 W 54, M since 98 D15, D19 8/2013 discovered EA, W maintained contact with OM until 10/14 7/2/17 W said she wanted S, 7/25/17 moved out of MBR 12/17 W says moving out 5/18, W still in home.
Me: 44 H: 44 Kids: 20, 16, 16, and 10 Together/Married: 22 years H announced he was emotionally detached and considering D: 4/4/16 H announced he is going to try to stay and reconnect: 5/1/16
