So on the next Chapter of WW. Something in my mind out of nowhere told me to call the loan company in regards to W car, which was on the verge of being repossessed. Apparently all the company could tell me at this point is due to a Chapter 13 bankruptcy being filed. They can't repo the vehicle. Therefore I now have to contact my lawyer to see how this is going to affect me.
Also according to some friends, OM2 finally married his long term girlfriend/baby mama. OM2 AKA Scavenger finally got the sex he was hanging around for. Then stopped talking with W. So apparently she got played. And this guy went off and got married after being with this woman for 12 years. So much for the #living. My W is a complete mess, which continues to confirm I made the right choice to file.
Now with that said, I received a bill in the amount of $350. I knew I owed lawyer $70. But the reat of the money added is the same amount for the filing fee, which w said she paid two weeks ago. So my assumption is that W lied about paying the filing fee. Or either it's a misunderstanding. In which I need to talk to my lawyer about.
I just wanted to take a moment to reflect on my sitch. On the 11th, it was officially 1 year from OM W telling him that she knew about his A with my W due to me telling her a few days prior. OM naturally called me up threatening to harm me as I remained calm the whole time telling him that be did this to himself. It was also the first time, he kicked W to the curb to save his own MR. I recall my W blaming me and saying she wasn't responsible if we had killed each other over her actions.
It was at that moment where I started to detach without realizing it. Loyalty is huge for me and the fact that my W admitted to her best friend that she still wanted to sleep with him after that confrontation showed me and her best friend that she wasn't worth dealing with. But yet I kept trying to dave this MR. At this point, I still try to apply DB methods, but all I want is to just move on from my W. There is nothing that I find remotely respectable about her. I guess what I am trying to say is that my W continued trifiling behavior helped greatly with detaching.
The only sad part is that there probably could have been somewhat of a friendship at some point in the future. But my W burned that bridge to the ground with the continued behavior. My neighbor who is divorced trying to explain that threat comparison to a WW is like two crash dummies. As long as I am still attached to her in some way. Her crashing and going through the windshield will likely result in the same happening to me. Which is why me getting this divorce was so necessary.
Because my W bankruptcy is definitely effecting me and all she does is shrug it all off like it is no big deal. And she is too damn stubborn to realize that the money Unspent on my lawyer tobfix this is taking away from S14.
Hey Tread, it has been awhile and I am truly sorry for the way things have went in your stitch. Its good to see that you are moving on and becoming a better person for yourself and son. I pray 2018 brings a better and brighter future for the both of you.
You are a d b success to me because you saved...yourself and s14 from this mess.
Warning: I am now in a protracted struggle where my stbx won’t sign the papers so you be still have some work to do.
Peace be with you in the new year.
Gordie 40s W 40s M20+ kids 2016 BD W fantasy affair w OM1 I do everything wrong 2017 I start to DB W says TLTL files for D PA w OM2 2018 I do LRT W drops filing and OM2 situation slowly improving
Tread - sounds like you did everything you could. Now it's time to move on and do what Tread needs to do to live a fulfilling and happy life. You DB'd and maybe it saved you if not the MR.
You have walked a long road. Be proud of that. You have that strength. You stand for your son now. Is that not enough? Take care and keep on being the lighthouse for your son.
Been a few weeks and everything seems to be going well. S14 and myself went to my parents house for Christmas. Last year I found out about my WW A a few weeks before Christmas, not to mention my W behaviour that day may things crazy for the whole family. Christmas 2017 was great and I honestly didn't think about my W at all. S14 had a great time as well. Though my father did mention that he could tell that S14 was missing having his mother around for Christmas. My father's parents divorce when he was around the same age, so he can tell these things.
When we returned to town, W and I met with our life insurance company to separate our policy. The crazy thing about the whole thing was that I honestly felt nothing for my W throughout the whole hour we were there together. W tried to make small talk, but I simply had no interest in even being there with her at the moment. I was cordial to a certain point. But I really didn't care where she had came from or where she was going afterwards. At some point, I guess I became detached without even really realizing it.
Now there was a moment where the insurance guy had to redo all our information and he asked about our weight. Clearly my policy numbers will go down due to all the weight I have lost recently. W on the other hand completely lied when asked about her weight by at least 50lbs. There was this little petty voice in my head that wanted to tell the truth...lol But I simply just turned the other way and left it alone. Didn't want to be there longer than I had to be.
Our bestfriends came into town for the holidays with their children. Apparently they haven't spoken with W in a while. So our friend who I will refer to as S asked W what her issue was. W claimed that she was upset with her and her husband for taking my side in all of this. S being a straight shooter told W that she wasn't taking side, but the truth was that W was dead wrong. And that they will never support her behavior. W wasn't happy about that at all. Needless to say that W officially burned that bridge.
S told me afterwards that she could tell that W was clearly losing it and she predicts that there will be some sort of breakdown soon. My only response was that was no longer any concern of mine. Any concern with my STBX mental health would need to be addressed with her family. Who we all know will do nothing to help prevent a mental breakdown. And they certainly will do nothing afterwards.
Spent the past week basically working out and doing something everyday with S14 and his friends. Those teens wore me out, but they had nothing on me at the skating rink. Went out and partied for New Year Eve. Spent the last 15 years at home with the family, but S14 was with mother yesterday. Next year, I will probably throw a house party for New Year, because I seriously hate standing in long lines in the cold. Spent today sleeping in, sobering up and then working out. Strange thing is that the last few days, I have the sudden urge to go out and date. Have the feeling that 2018 is going to be a very interesting year.
