I've been wanting to update for the past couple of days, but with the shrinking amount of time I have here ,I been trying to check in on others as much as I can.
It's late, but I'll try to fit in as much as I can. On Thursday, I got a call from my father. It was an invite to a picnic on Saturday in Vermont. CAW wasted no time on her decision not to go. D10 said she didn't want to go either. Not really looking forward to making the trip alone, I told my Dad I would get back to him on Friday. When I came home Friday evening, D10 had changed her mind, so I called Dad and told him we were coming. That evening, CAW's gestures of affection had noticably cooled and that brought on the "here we go again" sensation, but I tried to keep it under wraps.
Saturday, D10 & I left at 9:00 am and came back home at 9:30 pm. We had a nice visit. CAW spent the entire day cleaning D10's room. From D10's inquiry, CAW said she started missing us by about 7:00 pm. Sunday, the weather was perfect to finish digging out with a neighbor's help, the two boulders I had started working on during the spring. Filled in the holes and reseeded. Afterwards, we went shopping and while walking around in stores, CAW put her arms around me several times. Monday was a pleasant lazy day.
Then Tuesday, I woke up to something totally different! CAW had reach over and gave me a kiss before getting up out of bed. It was the start of a lot of new gestures she hasn't done before. I came home from work to be greeted by a big smile, hug and kiss. (Usually, I greet her when I come home). When we went to bed, CAW took my hand and pressed against her cheek and held it there as she fell asleep.
Wednesday I woke up to another kiss by CAW. It was CAW's first day back to work and had tired her out. So that evening after talking about her day, we went to bed early and watch some TV, when she started rubbing her cheek against my arm and we ended up snuggle up for the night.
and again this morning another kiss and more gestures as Lisa (tielbeigle) put its ... acting like being "in love" (sorta like the term "puppy love") ... like someone turned the "on" switch.
Also, I need to mention, that during the summer she would wear her rings mostly only in public, saying her fingers were swollen. She usually wears four - her diamond engagement ring, wedding band, a mother's ring and a heart shaped ruby I gave her. Well for the last two weeks, I've noticed she has been keeping her wedding band on whenever she takes the other ones off.
The only thing still obviously lacking is the ILY's, but I'll keep my fingers crossed.
Well, better get to bed, gotta get up for work in less than three hours.
I know it was late last nite when I posted, but that one totally got by me!!
I have been trying to refrain from wondering why the sudden change and this seems to become a futile exercise and I now you folks are jabbing me here, but I have to put it out there now ...
One night couldn't make that much of a difference ... could it?
It has been a week and a half now and she hasn't requested an encore either and a couple of times with these new "acts" of affection, she has commented that doesn't want to mislead me into thinking she's looking for more of that, but that's it. It's all been physical touch, but nothing verbal. I dare not say anything myself, because I know that will cause her to back off.
Actually, I'm doing a 180 here too. Normally, my way of catching her doing it right would be to respond by returning the affection both verbally and physically. Many times she will stop touching me. She once told me she interprets my return touching as me trying to advance it to having sex. How do I break this misconception? So this week, I just sat there and took it. While its been great to receive all this attention, I do become uncomfortable that I can't express my appreciation for the attention and I want her to know I do appreciate it, so I'm not sure this is right 180 to do here?
My suggestionis to just enjoy it without thinking to much about it - you can let her know you enjoy her touches and kisses by smiling and just being receptive - I think another person can just sense receptiveness from another without having any reciprical touches.
Just let it flow and relax.
and get me the specifics on that "wake up" technique, would 'ya
Quote: She once told me she interprets my return touching as me trying to advance it to having sex.
My W is the same, KAW. Really, it's because, in the past, this would be true. I've got quite the libido, so I would take every opportunity I could, thus sometimes misinterpreting my W's affections. Since DBing I've begun to reduce my expectations and just enjoy the attention. Also, since my love language is touch, I tend to be more "touchy" than her, but I've also curbed this a bit. As a result, she does it more.
I guess, for you, just enjoy it. Over time I imagine this conception she has will change.
Others are right. You have to sit back and enjoy the moment on this one. If she thinks you're always wanting to lead things towards sex, you need a good stretch where you're consistant about not doing that.
Anyways, she's the captain here, let her lead. You'll get your rewards later on if your patient.
A dream it's true
But I'd see it through
If I could be
Wasting my time with you
-Band:Phish Song:Waste
Just enjoy the attention and affection. One of H's issues of unhappiness with me was lack of affection. Affection to him meant sex, at least I thought it did. He'd go to bed early. I'd stay up a little later hoping that he'd be asleep when I came to bed, then be as quiet as possible so as not to wake him. There were some nights I just wanted to sleep. I wanted the closeness of sleeping in his arms or just being close to him, but he needed the sex first.
,I been trying to check in on others as much as I can. 
While its been great to receive all this attention, I do become uncomfortable that I can't express my appreciation for the attention and I want her to know I do appreciate it, so I'm not sure this is right 180 to do here?
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