The story so far... -STBX involved in A since late December/early January 2015 -I begin versions of LRT in mid-February -STBX moves in with her parents first week of April -I expose A to OM's W in mid-April -STBX threatens to file for D immediately following exposure of A -Holding pattern for now -Pulling farther back from STBX -Established boundary regarding daily contact with children -STBX served me D papers on 06/19/15 -STBX putting in offers on new home -Begin dating again -D is final
Hey everyone. I wanted to just drop to say hello and thanks again to everyone who helped me through this life transition. It has been a little over a year since I first posted so it seemed like the right time to provide an update.
I have been good in the interim. Co-parenting with my XW has progressed smoothly. Both of the kids appear to be handling the D well. I recently got promoted at work and I am approaching the six month mark in my new relationship.
Believe it or not, my GF and XW have met and have actually become friends. Initially, my XW asked to meet my GF before the kids were introduced. Since then, they have gotten together a few times with the kids (my GF has a D3). We even invited my XW over for an Easter egg hunt at my GF's house a few days ago.
It truly has been fantastic to apply the DB skills I learned last year to my new relationship. I literally feel like a new man and it's wonderful to be appreciated again. At the same time, I continue to work on keeping myself grounded as an individual so that I don't lose myself in the new relationship.
The one thing that has been a struggle, not surprisingly, is building trust in my new relationship. My GF knows my past. She has done nothing to deserve suspicion but small things can trigger my past, the infidelity, and lead to anxiety. I have been open with my GF about this and she has been helpful. But ultimately, I know that I need to work towards conquering my trust issues on my own.
It would be interesting to hear other's success stories of building trust in new relationships.
Love all of you guys and I know that I wouldn't have made it out in one piece without the support.
Me:35 W:30 D:4 S:1 Bomb: 01/08/15, discovered EA & PA In House Separation: 01/14/15 W moves out: 04/05/15 I tell OM's W about A: 04/15/15 W serves D papers: 06/19/15 Mediation: 09/16/15 D final: 12/01/15
