After my previous stories about my situation, my wife keeps playing games, july we had an issue where she filed a restraining order against me for lies, and the court allowed it she set me up good, the issue happened on a friday and i told her not to come home she had to go and i would pack up her stuff and she can go stay with her Mom or the fat coward and i went somewhere else not straight home, kids were staying the night at my MIL house so when i arrived home she was in bed and i told her to leave and she refused so i said well how about u get out of my marriage bed and she said its her bed too, then started trying to play with me bothering me and so long short version nothing accomplished so next day she left 4 work and i had already bought new door locks and changed them picked up kids and went to my family house at the time she would have gotten off she got home and couldnt get in then called me and i didnt pick up, she called around to my families homes to locate me and my SIL didnt know i was avoiding her 4 a while and told her i was there, and crap crap crap occurred but nothing really physical except restraining her from possibly harming kids just overly aggressive and i felt i needed to hold her to try to calm her and she used that against me stating i put my hands on her and it was really a huge lie, so went thru the whole weekend talking a little all the while in the back of her mind waiting til Monday to go to the courthouse and filed a bogus ordered, i am so not a coward like that and she knew it so her plan was to take the kids back over the MILs and she was at home by herself we were sitting and she came clean about filing the RO and Police were on the way to serve me or whatever never went thru anything like that so i left and went to a little pond a the park to think about this evil stuff occurring and she called looking 4 me and i told her to not call me that she wins i cant do this he can have her and she said she don't want him and asked can we just talk, and i said no she begged and i told her she could come where i am, she came crying and blah blah blah left her job went on leave was not going to return until she was a home 4 a few months, said how she is going to do right and she was going to prove it being with me everyday and blah blah blah, so end up going back to work, 1 lie didnt quit, and back to more lies even saying still she found a place that shes moving out, because she has done our marriage and its lame or whatever and that she'll file 4 D after she moves after holidays 4 kids sake, now she keeps making plans 4 us and valentine's plans with family and friend putting on a married front and then making stupid statements like u wanna go see my place and im excited my place is done and crap like that and im just tired of the trash its a nightmare and she still goes to church and sits right next to me though not wearing her ring, its like 2 different people 1 is weird and the other is on drugs i dont know but im burnt out and vulnerable wanting real love reciprocated but she says things are different she doesnt see me like that anymore her heart is somewhere else and this dude is like 400Ibs and ugly, a wanna be fake rapper working at the same job, he's married filed for divorce but went back to her when my wife went on leave from work and stopped the divorce dates but we r back in crap how does your heart and mind want that disgusting immoral adulterous crap but she does but claims shes moving out for her its a nightmare, seriously and i just want it over 1 way or the other Please God
My wife accidentally left her cell phone at home and noticed a text to the married coward, and the woman who suppose to be my wife sent a text staying: baby didn't we see this place, well its back on the market @like 4:14am and i left for work at 4:00am, how is someone capable of being so ugly, it's making me begin to look at my own wife who i don't recognize anymore, disgustingly, and I don't think i can do this any longer I've tried, and she's totally gone, now planning to move with this ugly coward
What do i do now confront or just do the detaching thing? We have 3 kids here doing homework and i have a pissed attitude that I'm trying to hide from them, I'm sick of trying to save face for her like she's a good woman when she's not, going on12 years of marriage and I've been faithful, not falling for current temptation feeling betrayed and neglected while this ugly coward has his wife trying to make their marriage work and my wife, my wife is chasing him I guess I'm the fool for me and my family, stating months ago before she went back to work she would be stupid to go back to playing this game, i guess that means she is very stupid, why in the hell do we good faithful people gotta take this from no good people to try to keep the family going, keep my integrity by sticking to my vows before God and witnesses still faithful, still loving, that [censored], i never shared women in my past and im definitely not sharing my wife, i don't know what to do when i see her i might have to just leave for a while,i don't know
Seriously never put your hands on any one, in any way.
It can be seen as asult if your restrained her against her wishes. Use the order to protect you. If she contacts notify the police, if she come to the house ask her to leave and call the police.
Keep all text as a record, do not reply expect to say do not contact me or the conditions of the order. She placed the order now she needs to live the consequences.
If you comply and she is contacting you, you can prove she is doing the wrong thing. Plain and simple. Let your actions do the talking.
Last edited by Ggrass; 01/14/1511:52 PM.
M 46 h54 Both married before T 11y Bd 2/14 I must see where ow leads! Ms 18 hs 26
I'm sorry buti might have left yall confused but the Wednesday after she filed we went together to the courthouse to get it released and to see if we can get it taken off my record since then we still lived together up until this day I found this text message this afternoon when I get home from work she accidentally left her phone here so that's when all this occurred we're still living together sorry about the confusion
I think my wife is crazy confused, i think she's trying to have cake and eat it too which is seriously devilish, stupid
But poster above i am in no way abusive have never thought or tried to harm my wife in any way it was just like a snapped episode, i just couldn't recognize the woman that she was at the time,like a little girl even currently with some statements that she make it seemed like a teenager in the minD a rebellious teenager, that snaps when somebody tries to correct her or restrain her for her own safety, I love my wife I just don't know if she's my wife anymore in her brain and I'm worth more then this crap I've never done anything to try to hurt her deliberatelylike she does me believing everything that this coward fat guy says and he lied to her from the very beginning according to her but yet still you can trust him over me your husbandit's like some screws came loose and I don't know how to tighten them all I can do is let go and let God and that's difficult in itself because us men always try to fix things that's how God created us now you're saying that I have to just sit and wait that's difficult I'm vulnerable I need love reciprocated I'm still faithful and will stay faithful to God first which means I would have to stay faithful to my wife even it when there's times when you want to retaliate or get revenge by playing these mind games far worse then she could ever but yet and still I don't I just hate this crap and that [censored] like I'm not even a man anymore like she's holding me by the cojonesand is controlling me like a puppEt because I'm walking on eggshells,I really need help in my approach she's driving me crazy despite our children ages 14 12 and 7 my little girl is the youngest and this is her role model I can't let that happen
stay away. hire a criminal defense lawyer to fight the restraining order.anyone who files such a thing, like my wife did, for no reason, is pure evil.
pfa can ruin you professionally and mentally. 7 months later we will soon have court to dismiss it. mine looted me strategically, her lawyer is lucifer, offering to dismiss in exchange for keeping stolen money (aka extortion)
