My husband moved out on 11/2/14, only 1 month after moving back in from a separation for 1 month in September. Our separation in September was due to me telling him to leave; a apologized for that, but he told me that he didn't love me the same way that he used to. I was harsh with words and threatened D throughout our relationship. He withdrew and didn't spend any time with me.
He left in November bc we just were not getting along. He didn't trust me. He slept in another bedroom. He didn't want to talk with me. I got attitudes. I would leave the home and stay at a (female) friend's home until 11pm just so it'd look like I had a life. When he left in November, I moved out our apt and in with a homosexual man. When I moved out, he moved back into our apartment.
I tried to force him to give me an answer about what he wants for this marriage bc he won't say "y" or "n" ab the topic of D. We have not spoken since 10/21. He got upset with me bc I confronted him ab long conversations and sending roses to a woman. (I found out ab this from the phone bill and his email). He denied it and told me that he was giving me the phone back. I had the phone deactivated and the lights in the apt turned off. He changed his number and used a blocked number to call and tell me that he had me dropped from the auto insurance.
I went into the apt on 10/28 to get the last of my things. He didn't know I was going and I had to get a key from the leasing office. He called me multiple times from a blocked number but then called me from his number, I didn't answer. He sent me and text and left me a VM telling me not to come back over there.
I'm so resentful bc I've been there for him, and now he has a high paying job and I feel used and abandoned. He didn't call me in Thansgiving and I could not call him bc I didn't have his number at that time. He even told one my aunt's friends that he doesn't "vibe" with me anymore when she only asked him how I was doing when she saw him in the mall.
I don't know what on earth I should be trying to do. I want to make it work, and I'm praying that this is jus a season, but I really feels like he has hate in his heart towards me; and now he's talking to a pretty, 33 yo nurse. He's normally into older women, and he feels like I'm immature.
I'm lost and filled with guilt.
Me-27 H-32 M- 5/2013 No children Currently separated since11/2014 1st separation- 10/3/14 - 11/1/14 Last convo (argument) - 10/21/14
