Newbie - Introduction - H moving out soon

[TL72*]

Hi, I'm a newbie so bear with me as I learn how to use this forum. I posted in the newcomers intro area as well. Here's my story
I've been married 10 years, together 17. I'm 42 and he's 55.
3 years ago I had an affair, I've taken responsibility and we were getting past that I thought. I ended it and we have been working on rebuilding for several years. He seemed to be fighting for me the first year and I responded by loving and spoiling him. I thought we were doing fine but on January 6th he announced out of the blue that he saw a lawyer and wants a divorce. There was no discussing it, his mind was made up. He won't go to counseling, I am reading lots of books on how to save your marriage alone. I received the marriage dissolution papers and he knows I don't want this divorce, but I felt that delaying it would only make him more angry. I took them to a lawyer and they are fair so I signed them. Now we're in a 2 month waiting period. He doesn't like to talk about it so I don't bring it up. He's still living in our house, I asked him to stay during the 60 day period and he declined. There has been zero fighting, we are still intimate and sleeping in the same bed. At first I was pursuing him and fighting to save it, then I realized it didn't seem to be helping. I started reading DB and am now distancing myself and attempting to GAL. I just saw the abbreviations so i'm still learning what all those mean. I have no idea when he's moving out. He says that he just can't forgive me. He has told no one. He has held in this anger all this time and I didn't realize it - he wasn't showing it. I've done everything I can to show him that I love him. He recently started testosterone replacement therapy and that's when I think some of these changes came on, he got confidence back which is a good thing and some women at his office were hitting on him and it seems maybe he thinks the grass is greener on the other side now. It feels like a MLC, it was so out of the blue. I really think 17 years is worth fighting for. I have apologized sincerely many times, I stopped all contact with the OM, I really thought it was in the past - that is where I want to keep it. I realize it takes years to heal from my mistake and it seemed that we were. Apparently he has decided it's not worth fighting for and this is the only way he can heal. Basically i'm here reading and looking for support. I'm hoping that he will want to reconcile, but I don't think he'll be open to that until he actually moves out. Thanks for listening.

[Roberta]

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