I know I haven't been on for awhile; well here is an update on my situation as of last month H and I had several heart to heart talks about everything and I'm happy to report that we are working on getting our family back together; we had couple of wonderful weekends as a family with our boys and as a couple without our boys and they were awesome. I know that we still have a long way to go and a lot of work ahead of us but I think we will be able to keep moving forward to rebuild our marriage and family.
M:42 H:37 M:14yrs S:13; S:9 Found out PA:8/2012 2nd PA & still w/OW:4/2013 H asked for D:6/2013 H moved out: 8/2013 H & OW moved in together: 8/2013
That's a nice start, however, what has he actually done to make things better? Have the two of you discussed counseling?
Sorry if this sounds like I'm skeptical, but I've seen way too many marriages on here who thought they were in Piecing, but failed because nothing changed on the part of the WAS. Sweeping things under the rug won't fix the marriage and the resentments it's caused.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
Oh and FYI, the majority of situations here that try to get back together often experience "false starts". That's why the C is important to create the initial map that the two of you need to follow.
Keep posting on here if you can. This part is going to be much harder than when you two were apart.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
That's wonderful that you two are working on things. Mr. Bond gave good advice. I hope you two are able to start with a beginners mind and build a brand new, solid foundation. Keep sharing, all the best to you and your family!
me: 30 H:30 tgthr:7 m:4 no kids 5 counseling sessions initiated by H as a LR: Oct 2012 long distance marriage b/c of work since Nov 2012 official BD: July 2013 nothing filed 1/1/14 I dropped the rope
