Seems like a pretty consistent pattern from W. NC during the weekend and then a break the ice text at the beginning of the week to pass the time during work hours. Then nothing after work.
Its a little frustrating because they are light/upbeat and then just go cold for a few days. I am still trying to detach from the cycle, and recognizing it is helping. I also have not done a good job of not responding to some of them.
me: 30 XW:28 tgthr:4 m:1 no kids BD: June 2013 D: Jan 2014
I personally make no attempts to contact but when she makes an attempt I'm available. This may not be the "right" way but it prevents me from chasing her (makes me happier) and lets her contact if she needs and allows us to communicate when she's ready to do that.
Resentment occurs when we aren't doing what we need to care for ourselves, though we expect others to do it for us.
It just hit me on the ride home, its only been 2 months since second BD and a month since W moved out. It feels like so much longer. Still a long road to go, but suppose a lot of progress considering short time frame.
me: 30 XW:28 tgthr:4 m:1 no kids BD: June 2013 D: Jan 2014
Its a long road ahead, and its baby steps to get there. Definitely feels like I've gotten a lot of grey hairs in the past 2 months.
W text today to inform that our planned outting in 3 weeks is off. She got new orders. At this point not sure if thats really the case. She used military training before as a cover to see OM, so that is a point of trust that I have difficulty with and probably will for a while.
At this point, why she cancelled isnt really important. I'm still going to the event, will see if I can find someone for her ticket and have the great time I had planned.
me: 30 XW:28 tgthr:4 m:1 no kids BD: June 2013 D: Jan 2014
If u guys read those threads where they reconcile you will notice that the LBS move on and made changes. They looked at themselves, hard and became happy with who they are/were. They acknowledged their flaws and changed them. They didn't talk about changing they actually did it. They began to have a happy life, they planned and hoped all without ex in the picture. They regain who they were once. That is you..... Try it. It may work. It may not. But your life ain't over just yet
M 53 D 20 Separated 6/22/11 moved out 10/24 Together 26 yrs Married 16 W Filed for D 7/21/11 Served 9/6/11 D final 8/28/12
“Failure is not fatal, but failure to change might be.”
If u guys read those threads where they reconcile you will notice that the LBS move on and made changes. They looked at themselves, hard and became happy with who they are/were. They acknowledged their flaws and changed them. They didn't talk about changing they actually did it. They began to have a happy life, they planned and hoped all without ex in the picture. They regain who they were once. That is you..... Try it. It may work. It may not. But your life ain't over just yet
Where are these threads? I'm interested in reading these stories.
Resentment occurs when we aren't doing what we need to care for ourselves, though we expect others to do it for us.
