Haven't posted for awhile.just to recap ,my husband left almost 2years ago,still comes over a lot but just as a " friend" ,gives me a hug and kiss when he leaves. He was having a scheduled surgery and I asked him if he needed a ride. He said no that his daughter ( love child) was giving him a ride. His surgery was yesterday . I texted him in the morning to wish him well. His daughter texted me after his surgery to say all went well. Didn't hear anything today so texted him this evening to ask how he was doing .he texted back to say he's good just resting. Do I just wait now to see if he let's me know how he is doing or leave him alone? Not sure if he's mad that I didn't check on him sooner or if he just doesn't want to hear from me. I feel I'm damned if I do and damned if I don't.
Hi cadet yes I have ear everything and have been using all of the advice, I was treating him like a friend would do if they had surgery,I will butt out now,thanks
I just read a commentary in the paper today which ive heard countless times but we need reminded of .Some donts in our life,worrying about the wrong people instead of focusing on those in our lives who truly matter and directing our attention and worry to the future instead of staying in the present and cherishing the time we have now. In other words focus on the people that want you in their life not the ones that don't! Was a good wake uo call for this morning!
I saw your posts on a few threads, your sound very sad, sorry to hear your pain in your writing.
When you say H left, your not D? Do you have kids...if so how old? Can I ask how old you are?
Mine would love to leave if he thought he could come back and forth, I said no way for a long time, and my S22 would not take his return well. These days I say whatever go away, oh, too late, now he doesn't want to go, I never thought he did, just MLC vomit.
It's great that your trying to live in the now...I think the Dali Lama said the same thing!
Have a great day, I too am home alot, kids are all adults, it [censored], it's my time and H is on the mothership exploring the galaxy!
The past can't be ahead of you in the future. You don't have to figure it all out, just pick a direction. What's next...I don't know but I can't wait!
G, just like with friends, you ask the questions. If you get an answer ok. If not, ok. That's how friends are, right?
My $0.04 anyway.
Peace, AJ
"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter" MLK Put the glass down... "Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."
