My W is thinking about quiting her job and working for her family's business, which is in another state. She'd start working two days a week, staying overnight at her folks. But it's a really demanding job and she loves LOVES to work so I suspect it would quickly grow. This worries me for a couple of reasons: (1) we just started recovering from a tough couple of years and things have been pretty good, (2) she has a hisotry of making promises to get me to agree to something then, later, thinking that since things have changed there is no logical reason to fell bound by a promise (like I will only stay two days a week), and (3) it seems to me that she'd be starting a secon life in another state with a new job and friends that I wouldn't be a part of. I offered to quit my job and relocate the family- so she gets both- but she doesn't want to take the kids away from their friends and schools. So I agreed to two days max, with the understanding that the first time it is three days I put our house on the market. Help- her family is coming for thanksgiving and it's to be discussed. Reasons they want her to come to the business is that it solves a bunch of personel problems that could be solved in other ways. She won't discuss her thoughts. Advice? I am trying to hold a hard-earned marriage together.
There's not a lot of traffic here, you might try posting in Newcomers even though you've been around quite a while.
That is a very tough sitch to be sure. I can understand your concerns. You say that W didn't want to relocate the family because of the kids, but have y'all actually discussed it with the kids or is she just assuming they don't want to move? They might see it as a big adventure.
Or what about a trial period, like 3 months? IE, let her go work there for 3 months and if she absolutely loves it then you relocate the family.
