So, how was your weekend mate? PMA still up, I hope!!
Freshman Class of 2012
M-49 W-42 1D-10 T 10 YEARS M 9 YEARS EA/MLC 07/2010 Separation 28/05/2012 PA confirmed 31/07/12 W Asked for D 31/07/12 D on and off the table since then
Arsene: I dont think the PMA is up right now. Weekend was ok at best. My son and I had a good time sitting in the rain Friday night watching some high school football, and then my youth team won their game on Saturday in the rain as well, so both of those were positives. Unfortunately after the game wife took the boys and left for her parents house and stayed until late last night.
Normally that doesn't bode well for me, her mom is her support system that tells her to get out. I think her mom wishes she had divorced her dad years ago so she worries my wife will end up being 60 and wishing she had done the same. Anyway, I have no idea what happened up there and really shouldnt be to worried about it right now. I think its simply a culmination of things getting me down. My election is tomorrow and while I should win easily the date has constantly been looming in my mind b/c she is supposedly filling when the election ends. Add to that the fact that its been raining for about 4 straight days and just generally gloomy outside and its gotten me down.
Gonna try to turn this around as soon as possible, but i'll be pretty anxious until this week ends waiting to see if she files.
Carnac - my thoughts and prayers are with you this week. That unknown feeling is awful. But good luck with the election tomorrow! My PMA hasnt been on focus either. Just seems like life is going backwards for me right now instead of forward. But I have a good support system here, and in my general life. Keep trying to smile Carnac. Happy Monday.
M:43/ H:39 T:12/ M:9 S8, D15 M affair(one night): 2/09 M EA: 2/12-7/12 D:6/7/12 H: GF since 7/24/12
God,Family, and the Green Bay Packers. - Vince Lombardi
I'm rooting for you mate. As someone mentioned somewhere on this site, don't borrow problems from tomorrow. You've got enough on your plate for now. Focus on your election and on your life. Cross tomorrow's bridges when you get there, who knows? Your road might change before you do get there after all.
My thoughts are with you mate.
Cheers!
Freshman Class of 2012
M-49 W-42 1D-10 T 10 YEARS M 9 YEARS EA/MLC 07/2010 Separation 28/05/2012 PA confirmed 31/07/12 W Asked for D 31/07/12 D on and off the table since then
Well there's good and bad in everything right? I won my election and it was a huge margin of victory so im very happy about that. My wife came and voted for me, but was very standoffish and didnt really have much to say. It looks as if at least for now her mind is back on full on divorce mode.
Still there's a bright side to everything right....if I could take away the twinge of sadness that comes from the demise of my marriage it would be easy to say that im happier than I've been in a long time. Things are really good for me and my mind is in a wonderful place of gratitude and service. The only downside right now is that I can't share this with her, she did send me a congratulatory text with a little bit of extemporaneous chat thrown in, but I would have to say that there has still really been NO movement in almost 4 months now.
Carnac - Congrats on the election!! As for your W - you dont know for sure that is what she is thinking. Dont read too much into anything that may not even be there. There is still hope. Believe my friend, believe! She doesnt have anything going on on the side that you are aware of, right? That to me says alot. Look at the other sitches on here - so many of the WAS do. Or my situation. I have done a complete 180 with myself (still need work) but he doesnt want me cause he has her. EVEN after he said he wanted our family back - he hasnt come back to me either.
So dont give up hope. Believe. Faith. Happy Wednesday!
M:43/ H:39 T:12/ M:9 S8, D15 M affair(one night): 2/09 M EA: 2/12-7/12 D:6/7/12 H: GF since 7/24/12
God,Family, and the Green Bay Packers. - Vince Lombardi
Congrats Carnac. Like MrsD says don't waste time thinking about what isn't. There'll be plenty of time to think about it when/if it happens. Cheers mate, and enjoy your victory.
Freshman Class of 2012
M-49 W-42 1D-10 T 10 YEARS M 9 YEARS EA/MLC 07/2010 Separation 28/05/2012 PA confirmed 31/07/12 W Asked for D 31/07/12 D on and off the table since then
Thanks to both of you for the encouragement. Your exactly right no need to borrow problems from tomorrow i've got enough to worry about right now.
MrsD: At this point im almost sure she doesn't have anything going on the side....just don't think she wants anything with me either, but your exactly right I have no idea whats going on in her head and maybe she's starting to think she would like something with me who knows. I know im doing the right things, that part is certain.
Remember the scripture in your signature and repeat it to yourself whenever you get these thoughts of doubt! I know it's hard Brother, but God wants us to stay the course, otherwise we would have given up when they walked out.
In their reality (whatever it may be in their head right now), we have all caused them lots of pain & hurt. They thought they tried everything possible & that this was the only way out. Prayer, time, and Patience will get us through to the other side my Brother!
I reflect on the last 3 years and how I treated my wife, and I can honestly empathize with her actions (although I think they are stinky). I have been going to IC, Church (accepted Christ as my Savior), and am now on meds. All of these are complete 180's for me (all which have literally pissed W off)! Because in the past, my pride prevented me from realizing that I did need help in a major way and that none of these things made me lesser of a person. I was diagnosed with Major Depressive Disorder after the bomb, which my Dr. told me was most likely brought on/triggered by my Lay-Off/Bankruptcy 3 years ago & worsened with current Sitch. So in summary I made my W miserable for almost 3 years & was too stubborn to see that I needed help. My W told me about 5 months ago that the Self-Confident, Cocky (so to speak), Humorous man that she fell in love with was gone! Talk about a wake-up call.
Not sure where the heck I was going with this story....LoL
Suppo! It's been a while. How are things mate? Still have started a new thread?
Freshman Class of 2012
M-49 W-42 1D-10 T 10 YEARS M 9 YEARS EA/MLC 07/2010 Separation 28/05/2012 PA confirmed 31/07/12 W Asked for D 31/07/12 D on and off the table since then
