To summarize, my wife cheated on me and left me after feeling unfulfilled in our marriage, I moved out, she got pregnant by OM and he left.
after 4 months of being separated and living separately, we started talking about getting back together, and I eventually moved in.
fast forward to this week. Everything has been great for 3+ years. I raised the child as my own alongside our child we had together. They're 5 and 3. No contact from OM since he left. Sex life has been great, regular life has been great, no fights or talks of leaving.
all of a sudden this week I noticed my wife crying, and she said she was a little depressed.
since getting back together in '08, she went back to school to be a nurse, and is starting her senior year. She is really excelling and our oldest son is starting kindergarten this fall. Just potty trained the younger one :-)
I asked her what was wrong and she said sometimes little things make depressed. I believe the burden of school, a job, the kids, finances, and being married bring a great deal of stress and she is starting to crack.
in the last week, she has stopped kissing me and telling me she loves me, and we don't cuddle in bed. She is very polite and still very much a wife, but distant. Her mother and I have encouraged her to go talk to our marriage counselor, which she's going to do.
its safe to say there's no one else in the picture.
please advise if you can
eternally grateful,
bc
M 31 W 26 M 6 S 6 S 3 Separated 6/2008 Back together 10/2008 All you need is love
To summarize, my wife cheated on me and left me after feeling unfulfilled in our marriage, I moved out, she got pregnant by OM and he left.
after 4 months of being separated and living separately, we started talking about getting back together, and I eventually moved in.
fast forward to this week. Everything has been great for 3+ years. I raised the child as my own alongside our child we had together. They're 5 and 3. No contact from OM since he left. Sex life has been great, regular life has been great, no fights or talks of leaving.
all of a sudden this week I noticed my wife crying, and she said she was a little depressed.
since getting back together in '08, she went back to school to be a nurse, and is starting her senior year. She is really excelling and our oldest son is starting kindergarten this fall. Just potty trained the younger one :-)
I asked her what was wrong and she said sometimes little things make depressed. I believe the burden of school, a job, the kids, finances, and being married bring a great deal of stress and she is starting to crack.
in the last week, she has stopped kissing me and telling me she loves me, and we don't cuddle in bed. She is very polite and still very much a wife, but distant. Her mother and I have encouraged her to go talk to our marriage counselor, which she's going to do.
its safe to say there's no one else in the picture.
please advise if you can
eternally grateful,
bc
She's gotten onto a depressive track in her mind. She has a lot to be happy about, she needs to change the conversation she has going on in her mind and she will be OK.
Sorry you find yourself back here again. Do you still have the book? Read it if you do. Did you go back to any old behaviors? How does she know shes depressed? What does she do that makes u think she is depressed?
M 53 D 20 Separated 6/22/11 moved out 10/24 Together 26 yrs Married 16 W Filed for D 7/21/11 Served 9/6/11 D final 8/28/12
“Failure is not fatal, but failure to change might be.”
yep. Total transparency. Life has been great guys. Picture perfect marriage until 2 weeks ago... I know our children stress her out because they don't behave very well, typical kid behavior.
I heard her tell her mother there's no one else, and that she learned her lesson last time.
she told her mom that she feels like her and I are on 'different levels' in this relationship, and that she feels smothered.
I have not gone back to any old behaviors. That man has been long gone.
I am attentive, compassionate, loving, patient, helpful, everything I could be.
M 31 W 26 M 6 S 6 S 3 Separated 6/2008 Back together 10/2008 All you need is love
yep. Total transparency. Life has been great guys. Picture perfect marriage until 2 weeks ago... I know our children stress her out because they don't behave very well, typical kid behavior.
I heard her tell her mother there's no one else, and that she learned her lesson last time.
she told her mom that she feels like her and I are on 'different levels' in this relationship, and that she feels smothered.
I have not gone back to any old behaviors. That man has been long gone.
I am attentive, compassionate, loving, patient, helpful, everything I could be.
M 31 W 26 M 6 S 6 S 3 Separated 6/2008 Back together 10/2008 All you need is love
yep. Total transparency. Life has been great guys. Picture perfect marriage until 2 weeks ago... I know our children stress her out because they don't behave very well, typical kid behavior.
I heard her tell her mother there's no one else, and that she learned her lesson last time.
she told her mom that she feels like her and I are on 'different levels' in this relationship, and that she feels smothered.
I have not gone back to any old behaviors. That man has been long gone.
I am attentive, compassionate, loving, patient, helpful, everything I could be.
M 31 W 26 M 6 S 6 S 3 Separated 6/2008 Back together 10/2008 All you need is love
yep. Total transparency. Life has been great guys. Picture perfect marriage until 2 weeks ago... I know our children stress her out because they don't behave very well, typical kid behavior.
I heard her tell her mother there's no one else, and that she learned her lesson last time.
she told her mom that she feels like her and I are on 'different levels' in this relationship, and that she feels smothered.
I have not gone back to any old behaviors. That man has been long gone.
I am attentive, compassionate, loving, patient, helpful, everything I could be.
M 31 W 26 M 6 S 6 S 3 Separated 6/2008 Back together 10/2008 All you need is love
yep. Total transparency. Life has been great guys. Picture perfect marriage until 2 weeks ago... I know our children stress her out because they don't behave very well, typical kid behavior.
I heard her tell her mother there's no one else, and that she learned her lesson last time.
she told her mom that she feels like her and I are on 'different levels' in this relationship, and that she feels smothered.
I have not gone back to any old behaviors. That man has been long gone.
I am attentive, compassionate, loving, patient, helpful, everything I could be.
M 31 W 26 M 6 S 6 S 3 Separated 6/2008 Back together 10/2008 All you need is love
