Hi i have not been here in a long time. my MIL died this morning in the hospital. i went to see her in hospital on wed. i hadnt seen her in 2 yrs. i told her i loved her and held her hand, she was in very bad shape. only half conscious. she was sick for the past yr and a half. congestive heart failure. i glad i saw her before she died . my h came over today and told son and i. i gave him a hug and said i was sorry for her passing but she was in a better place and no more suffering. im not looking forward to wake and funeral.
I'm so sorry, I know you loved her. I will keep your family in my prayers.
Be good to yourself, take good care of yourself. As they say, you put your own oxygen mask on first...that allows you to take care of the others who need you.
In a sense, this is your time to prove who you really are. Just shine.
sg Love is PATIENT, love is KIND, LOVE never fails / DB since 2001
thanks SG. it means a lot that you responded to my post. how are you doing? how is your relationship going with your boyfriend? my son graduated from high school 2 weeks ago and h took me, my son and my family out to dinner. sometimes he acts like he wants to come back to his family. he kind of put his arm around me a the grad. we went to a buffet at a really fine restaurant for the grad. and any time he wanted to get more food he wanted me to go with him. i am so confused and sad.
Congratulations on your son's graduation. I'm glad you still have these strong heart connections. It can be confusing and can make you sad, but it can make you joyful too. I've had so many of those, although not usually with my exH. As I think you know.
G and I are doing so well. It has been a very long time but we are making more permanent plans. We are excruciatingly slow, because we care more about the quality of the relationship and we are also both non-type-A people. We're pretty laid - back AND we have some real estate/grown children details. 6 kids between us. But there has been real progress.
And so much solid love & care. He treats me so well. And I wish the same for you.
Rys, I had to learn to care for myself...do the self-care, sticking up for myself, soothing myself, and I well know that is not easy to learn and develop those skills when raising young adolescents. Ugh. When they are doing well and when they are doing poorly.
And Rys -- it's hard when they leave, to care for yourself as woman, emotionally. I want you to really pay attention to this, because it's hard under good circumstances. You have some multiple grieving going on, but you've spent some time here building some skill.
I think you are uniquely equipped to come through, if you want to press through. Sometimes you show some pretty good strength.
God wants this of you, you are here for a reason .... which involves helping some other folks get through this...and you can do it, so get that oxygen mask on. We are part of that mask and are here to help you.
sg Love is PATIENT, love is KIND, LOVE never fails / DB since 2001
Hello all. its been a long time since i was here last. My divorce will be final next wed. i am sad that it has come to this even though my life is pretty good now. My son is going into his 3rd yr of college. he is doing well, he has a girlfriend. i have a boyfriend for the past 2 yrs, that treats me very well. husbands business is doing well. he bought a vacation home in FL and i wish i could be there to enjoy it with him sometime. it will still make me very sad if he marries ow.
