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what's with "supporting" her --what do you mean?

You mean helping with the divorce? Why would you do that? I mean I am okay with it

IF YOU HAVE CHOSEN THAT PATH but if this is your idea of divorce busting, well it's just not.

We don't assist in ending the marriage unless WE have decided it's the healthiest thing for US and or our children.

Btw, how are the kids handling all this? Where is your daughter living right now?


M: 57 H: 60
M: 35 yrs
S30,D28,D19
H off to Alaska 2006
Recon 7/07- 8/08
*2016*
X = "ALASKA 2.0"
GROUND HOG DAY
I File D 10/16
OW
DIV 2/26/2018
X marries OW 5/2016

= CLOSURE 4 ME
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I love that 25 says marriage was restored in '08 and is still on this forum. I think we have a lot to learn from 25.


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S/15, S/11 (both adopted in 2004, my step-nephews, now our kids)
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Multiple bombs. Latest one 5/4/12, our 10th anniversary.
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My daughter is living with her mom. I had a good weekend. I have left her alone 100 percent. I didnt message her or anything. I did wake up at 7am and cried a little bit because she hadnt wished me a happy mothers day. However, she did at 9 and i was much happier. It felt good to know she still thought of me. I am just taking it one day at a time.

I have decided that our old relationship must die. Its not working. If is interested in fixing things. She will need to earn it.


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Yes, it is dead. Google "You're already dead" from Band of Brothers and look at the video clip on YouTube. It will help. I know that it helped me.

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I have my ups and downs grief is weird like that. She has been coming to the same gym that i do for the last couple of weeks. I am not sure why she does that. I am such a mess but im getting stronger.


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This is some lyrics from my new life theme song.



As I walk through the streets of my new city
I'm back feeling much better, I suppose
I reclaimed the use of my imagination
for better or for worse, I've yet to know
but I always knew you'd be the one to understand me,
I guess that's why it took so long to get things right.
but suddenly I'm lost
On my street
On my block

Oh why, Oh why
Oh why haven't you been there for me?
Can't you see, I'm losing my mind this time?
This time I think it's for real, I can see

All the tree tops turning red
The beggars near bodegas grin and me
I think they want something
I close my eyes, and tell myself to breathe

and be calm.
Be calm.
I know you feel like you were breaking down.
Oh I know that it gets so hard sometimes.
Be calm.


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So, i read some old emails and chat logs. I am not sure when it went down we were calling each other sexy and talking about our sex in October. Its just crazy.


Travis


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Ok its been a mess and she has been cheating on me for at least 8 months. Its horrible and i cant save the marrige. How do i let go? How do i end things and why the [censored] would i want to go back to someone who treated me so poorly.


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Things are still a mess. She started going on dating sites and i found out about it. I have faith and i know i have to let her do her thing and be here when she figures it all out. Its just so hard sometimes.


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Im doing much better. I have spoken to her a couple times and im dealing with reality it more then likely over. I hate that fact that i care about her. However, i seem to be able to hold my head up high.


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