Just wanted to say thank you to all of you that gave me advice and helped me think through a difficult time. Sadly, after much contemplation, I have forced myself to accept some harsh realities. We (those of us on the hard end of a breakup/D) spend a lot of time trying to understand "what the heck!". However, in the end, it really doesn't matter if we understand the other person and their reasons. They have decided against being with us. Instead of accepting, we fight it. Subsequently spending weeks, months, even years with our stomachs twisting inside of us. It nails our feet to the floor and we can never move on, never heal.
I was convinced this was the love of my life. Yet here I am. I'm not giving up, I'm moving on. The difference, this was her decision not mine. I might own some aspects of the collapse, but I'm not the one that threw in the towel.
I deeply respect what each of you here are trying to do. Particularly those of you with children. But please be good to yourselves. Don't waste a precious life living in pain. Find a way to free yourself. If those that walked away decide to return, they will do so. From experience, you might be surprised to find out you don't want them anymore.
Life is a gift, live, live, live .... . The world is a wonder. Suck it in and smile every moment you can.
