Hey Ben, just saw this. I'm happy to report that, overall, things have been good and steadily improving. We've hit some small bumps in the road here and there, but nothing compared to the massive potholes we were dealing with before.
I've come to see that DB'ing is really an ongoing endeavor for maintaining a marriage, not just stopping an imminent divorce. We also both attend individual counseling at least twice a month, which has been a big help. On my wife's part, she's gotten much better at expressing herself and in admitting the role she played in some of our problems. And I've become a much better listener and much more inclined to work on my own shortcomings without becoming so defensive about them.
Not to sound too corny, but it's one of those things where I've realized it's about the journey/process, not the destination/end result. And I'll tell you this, now every time my wife tells me she loves me, I privately feel like a hero...to her, to my kids, and to myself. I sure don't take it for granted anymore. I wish the same for every person on this forum. Not every marriage can be saved, but I think with time every person here can come out their own situation a stronger, healthier, more secure individual. I think, ultimately, that's what DB'ing is all about.
H: 41 W: 35 M: 9 years T: 10 years S: 9 D: 7 ILYBINILWY & "I want a divorce": 6/22/2011 Piecing: 10/2011 Still going strong as of 4/2013
